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Too many variables. You can get fired or divorced for so many different reasons. However, most firings are one sided, that is, you did something wrong. Most divorces are a result of two parties who couldn't work it out for whatever reason. Aside from the abusers or someone cheating, it takes two to make a marriage work, and often two to let it go bad. So from an individual aspect I think getting fired from a career you've nurtured from the ground up is a bit more of a personal defeat.
Well it depends on what you value most. Some people can't wait to get a divorce so they don't feel like it's worse thing. While losing a job is like losing a bestfriend. That is if you really love your job. I'm just putting a different perspective on it.
I voted fired as a bigger failure.
As an employee it is all on you to fullfill your job requirements. It is one sided, give it your all, go above and beyond or be a slacker and do just enough to get by. If its the latter and you are fired, you failed on your own.
A marriage is a partnership. You must work together. You can only fulfill your responsibility and carry your partner for only so long. If you are working hard and your partner is a slacker, you are not fully responsible for the demise of your marriage.
I voted for divorce as more of a failure. I've been fired before, and although it wasn't fun, the guy I worked for was a jerk, so I was more relieved than upset. I'm the one who choose to leave my marriage, and it was by far the most difficult decision I've ever made. It was incredibly difficult for me to give up the dream of being married for fifty years. Unfortunately, I just chose the wrong spouse!
In short, being fired from the job didn't bother me because it was a bad fit. Getting divorced was much more difficult, because I chose to marry him, and then it didn't work. It was wrong to date him, and even worse to marry him. Unfortunately, the result of this (and a couple of other bad relationships) is that I don't trust my own judgment, so I'll probably never get married again.
Too many variables. You can get fired or divorced for so many different reasons. However, most firings are one sided, that is, you did something wrong. Most divorces are a result of two parties who couldn't work it out for whatever reason. Aside from the abusers or someone cheating, it takes two to make a marriage work, and often two to let it go bad. So from an individual aspect I think getting fired from a career you've nurtured from the ground up is a bit more of a personal defeat.
Great point. Everyone is coming up with their own variables. The following is open to anyone, not just Coolhand:
I could spin it like this...
Senario: Your friend invites you out to meet their friend at a local hangout. Within the first minute of meeting this friend of friend they tell you they just got a divorce or fired...Without knowing any variables such as their spouse or their jobs, which would you consider worse?
I selected getting fired from a job. Divorces are so common, with the main cause of them being misjudging their compatibility factors and/or rushing into a marriage too soon after becoming a couple.
I know many divorced couples and hardly anyone that has been fired.
It's easier to replace a spouse than a career. The older you are the harder it is to restart a career and there comes a point you just can't. I've known people of all ages who have found a new SO, though it does get tough for older women.
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