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You know I've been a member of CD for sometime now, and I peek in on the relationship thread from time to time. What I've noticed is that there seems to be a certain aspect of shallowness from both men and woman.
Men say it's hard to find a good woman and woman say it's harder to find a good man. With all of this in mind do you think we as people have become so picky that we make finding that good guy/girl difficult? Sometimes I find that people are so concerned with looks, height, and weight that we miss out on that "good thing". These other individuals might not be as attractive or have a hot body, but offer us support, personality and is companionable.
What I think it should come down to is Respect, admiration, being able to compromise. Most importantly someone who excepts you for you and nothing else.
Sorry everyone I was just thinking about it and wanted to know how you all felt about this. Sound off......
I guess people's standards can be too high. But this doesn't mean standards are wrong. I cannot honestly imagine anybody without any dating standards.
Think about it; how many people out there would date literally anybody? Not many, i'd reckon. there always is a breaker of values, outlook, attitudes, looks, personality, etc.
Unless C-D installs a filter on the depth of the posts, anyone can come and start as shallow a thread as he/she wants. Doesn't mean people here don't recognize shallowness for what it is. Can you see chairs moving closer and popcorn popping when it happens?
This is why the people that go ONLY by a picture on personals, may meet several "nice" people, but rarely do they meet someone that stimulates their mind as well as their heart.
I feel the same. Thats how it is off the internet also though. It seems that very few people seem to realize that looks only last until we're 40 (50 for the lucky) and even then, some of them just ditch their SO when they hit that age because "they aren't attractive anymore" and aim for getting a new model.
If people had any sense, they'd pick someone they like (as in, personality) because when you're both old and falling apart, having each others' company is going to matter far more than a chiseled jaw or cup size.
I agree. And I think someone else mentioned how people look for a potential partner online and how it creates problems because you are only going by a picture and short profile - I totally agree with that.
Compromise is good, but on our individual terms. Shallow to some is what is right for another. Nothing personal, but none of you are going to be there to pick up the pieces when I settle for everyone else's version of the ideal man and end up with the short end.
...I peek in on the relationship thread from time to time. What I've noticed is that there seems to be a certain aspect of shallowness from both men and woman...
Most people who post on relationship forums are wackos, weirdos, or losers.
Or, they are delusional and try to convince others that they have the answer.
Or they are voyeurs who enjoy watching the antics of delusional, wackos, weirdos, and losers.
I also think people have standards that are too high, and to me it seems that they just keep getting higher and higher and a little unrealistic.
While I have always had my preferences, when it came to actually dating I always tried to chuck them to the back of my mind, because realistically, the chances of meeting a guy who fits all my preferences is slim. And physically, most guys don't fit the description of my "dream guy".
In many cases though, I have seem people become very shallow when it comes to meeting other people and it drives me nuts.
Though luckily, I've somehow managed to snag a guy who is very very close to "dream guy" and I don't think I'd want to give him up if "dream guy" walked in the door this second.
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And I think someone else mentioned how people look for a potential partner online and how it creates problems because you are only going by a picture and short profile - I totally agree with that.
