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Hubby and I were having a discussion and it came up that he is always the one initiating sex. I have my moments when I do (usually after a few drinks ) but honestly, I don't do it out of the fear of hearing "I am too tired or not right now" in which I would am sure I would get really p**ssed and not be in the "mood" for a while.
I know guys are going to say, h*ll it's been happening to us since the beginning of time! But I think women (or at least I do) have a much more fragile ego when it come to this?
Ladies - Do you feel comfortable initiating or do you leave it up to the man?
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I think it's healthier if both are involved in that. Only so much excitement you can build up hour after hour or day after day
Even those with the wild imaginations and a high level of creativity begin to go flat over time
I am the first to admit that I am a sexually charged person - moreso than the average female. If I sat around waiting for a man to initiate all the time, I would probably implode.
There are ways to do it without putting yourself out there 100% if you are worried about a bruised ego. I don't suggest throwing your body on top of him as soon as you see him, but a light touch or kiss will get things going if he is willing.
I dont feel uncomfortable initiating, but I have gotten the "Im too tired" crap. I cant say it hurts my fragile ego, but it is frustrating especially when he will comment about how long since we last had sex. Thats when the B in me comes out.
Ive got two stratagies . One, I made a new rule, he dosent eat until after we have sex. When I havent cooked, I take his cell and start calling his friends to see how tired they are! Magically, he isnt that tired anymore.
Hubby and I were having a discussion and it came up that he is always the one initiating sex. I have my moments when I do (usually after a few drinks ) but honestly, I don't do it out of the fear of hearing "I am too tired or not right now" in which I would am sure I would get really p**ssed and not be in the "mood" for a while.
I know guys are going to say, h*ll it's been happening to us since the beginning of time! But I think women (or at least I do) have a much more fragile ego when it come to this?
Ladies - Do you feel comfortable initiating or do you leave it up to the man?
Men - How do you feel about women initiating sex?
Let me know your thoughts.
90% of the time I am the one who initiates sex with my husband. I have always been an extremely sexual person. Sometimes it's a blessing, sometimes it's a curse, because I'm much more sexual then my husband. He is also 10 years older then me and with age his sex drive slowed down. Anyway, I'm not afraid of being rejected by him because I know that he finds me desirable and he loves me and wants me and if he says "no", that's because he really IS tired or not in the mood.
Believe me - men like when women initiate. Trust me on this one.
I have absolutely no problem with a woman initiating, but I can see why a lot of women are afraid of being rejected. This is nothing new for men. Just as in dating, women are expected to make the first move. Imagine what the world would be like if men stopped doing that waited for women to be one to initiate things. Not just sex, but just the first move.
Yeah sure, go ahead and make it easy for me... Unless she's in heat 24/7 I don't mind her initiating. Helps me save money on the duct tape and chloroform.
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) but honestly, I don't do it out of the fear of hearing "I am too tired or not right now" in which I would am sure I would get really p**ssed and not be in the "mood" for a while. 
But I think women (or at least I do) have a much more fragile ego when it come to this?
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