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Lol_Stacey · 08-16-2009, 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by JBT1980

Do you want men to take charge and make most of the decisons because you feel women arent as good decison makers as men??

It's not this, a man that takes charge represents strength and masculinity......AND when I, as a woman decide I want to take charge, a man that is willing to let me represents the perfect balance in knowing when to let me.

Braunwyn · 08-16-2009, 02:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Lol_Stacey

It's not this, a man that takes charge represents strength and masculinity......AND when I, as a woman decide I want to take charge, a man that is willing to let me represents the perfect balance in knowing when to let me.

Let you? That sounds like a weighted balance of power in a relationship.

nat_at772 · 08-16-2009, 03:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Chanteuse d' Opéra

a man to take charge? In your honest opinion, ladies...what do you think?

yep. I'm not that secretive about it either. I tell my boyfriend all the time "If you're asking for it; you must not really want me to do it" oh wait...maybe I misunderstood the question.

Strike that.

AllAboutEve · 08-16-2009, 05:52 PM

I'm the type that likes balance. I don't want a guy to be too dominant or submissive - somewhere in the middle is preferable.

funymann · 08-17-2009, 08:14 AM

I'm a guy but they do want us to take charge. It's are job as a male.

funymann · 08-17-2009, 08:17 AM

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Originally Posted by LizCab44

I'm the type that likes balance. I don't want a guy to be too dominant or submissive - somewhere in the middle is preferable.

What you are saying is you like to be on top sometimes.

Capt. Dan · 08-17-2009, 08:26 AM

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Originally Posted by JetJockey

Eh... sometimes it's nice, but sometimes if I don't take charge, stuff doesn't get done

My fiancee is great and everything....but he's also a slacker who can't make up his own damn mind.

OH NO!!!!!!!A SLO Slacker!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Jet Jockey will know what I mean!!

njguy · 08-17-2009, 08:37 AM

Men being REALLY in charge?? To me it's a subject in reality of like "he can look but don't touch."

If he did you'd hear: "Ohhhhhh, he's so controlling."

So the taking charge for a Man in the REAL sense is utter BS coming from the opposite gender.

Be real! Most females want the Man to take "charge" of "cha-ching" for their wants only while keeping theirs.

Lol_Stacey · 08-17-2009, 09:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Braunwyn

Let you? That sounds like a weighted balance of power in a relationship.

You are playing semantics now. Basically I am saying there is a balance of power. I don't usually want it...so my SO will take charge, but things balance back out the other way sometimes. There is no rule that only he decides certain things and only I can control the what you decide button. We are much more collaborative than that, and very much on equal footing intellectually, so he has no issues with insecurity (with me).

Braunwyn · 08-17-2009, 10:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Lol_Stacey

You are playing semantics now. Basically I am saying there is a balance of power. I don't usually want it...so my SO will take charge, but things balance back out the other way sometimes. There is no rule that only he decides certain things and only I can control the what you decide button. We are much more collaborative than that, and very much on equal footing intellectually, so he has no issues with insecurity (with me).

Well, I don't mean to play semantics. The "letting" you through me a bit, is all.