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View Poll Results: Worse...S/O sleeping w/someone they just met or sleeping with someone they know?
Sleeping with someone they do NOT know is worse 15 39.47%
Sleeping with someone they know is worse 23 60.53%
Voters: 38. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 08-18-2009, 07:31 AM
 
Location: The Milky Way Galaxy
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Lol ...to me this is like saying would you rather drink a gallon of laundry detergent or a gallon of dishwasher detergent?

Either way, cheating is the ultimate betrayal to the other person.
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Old 08-18-2009, 09:53 AM
 
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Each are hideous choices, but sleeping with someone they know could be a much bigger problem. If it's sex with someone he just met it could mean nothing to the guy who does it. If it's sex with someone he knows there could be an emotional connection, a much more serious issue.
I agree 100%. That's why I voted for the second option. But it really doesn't matter in the end. Cheating is cheating and is unforgivable.
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Old 08-18-2009, 10:02 AM
 
Location: Orlando, FL
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I agree 100%. That's why I voted for the second option. But it really doesn't matter in the end. Cheating is cheating and is unforgivable.
Pretty much; if it were someone I knew, we'd have to change our entire social circle. If it were a stranger I'd be walking around saying "is that her"
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Old 08-18-2009, 11:00 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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This is a tough one. Most of the men I have been with were friends for quite a while before we started dating, so I can understand how one would develop an attraction to someone who makes a regular appearance in their lives. What they do about it is another story.
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Old 08-18-2009, 11:45 PM
 
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I would say that it would be less lethal if he cheated with someone he just met. Someone he found attractive but had no emotional connection with. Because the longer he knows her, the more of an emotional connection he has with her. That would mean that he has been lieing to my face for quite a while. Not to say that he wasn't before, because if he dared to cheat on me in the first place, then that means that somewhere along the way the love died, or never existed. But I would still want him to not feel something for my sister or his ex, than for him to just feel horny with another woman and not love me.

I can accept a man not loving me, ok, the loves dies sometimes. We can move on. But if he develops an emotional connection for someone else while still being with me, I would be preety upset. I would feel betrayed, which I probably wouldn't feel if the woman was a stranger. .
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Old 10-15-2014, 06:12 AM
 
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If you are both sleeping with other people behind each other's backs, why are you still a couple?
Two wrongs are just that, wrongs.
You can only be responsible for your own choices, and to accept that is actually empowering and can stop the negative competition about who is worse than who. I'd suggest you do some value clarification and live responsibly and honestly by working on yourself, instead of making someone else look worse to make yourself look better. It's far more rewarding to work on making yourself a better person, regardless of others' actions.
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Old 10-15-2014, 07:48 AM
 
Location: Canada
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Right. If he sleeps with a stranger she only has to feel betrayed by him. If he sleeps with someone she knows she gets to feel betrayed by TWO people - double your fun
That's what happened to me, and it was a lot to contend with emotionally, that not one but two people who were close to you could hurt you so badly. There aren't really words to explain it.

But at the end of the day, it's wrong no matter what the scenario, and doesn't need to be quantified as better or worse than. When it happens to you, it doesn't matter how it happened to others.
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Old 10-15-2014, 08:41 AM
 
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
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It's probably easier to adjust to a one-night stand.
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Old 10-17-2014, 05:47 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Neither, I'd be done with him either way.
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