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Yes - but to make a big deal out of something like paying, touching, conversation, etc. - would just be a red flag to me.
Just because you raise a red flag doesn't mean that there's danger. That's most of the reason that I'm involved in this thread.
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I understand that you do not agree with this. So how do you tell the woman that you are asking out that you will not be paying for her? How do they respond to this?
Don't assume that I'm arguing from a personal standpoint.
As I said up thread, I argue in favor of legalizing marijuana but I've never smoked and have no intention to smoke.
Yes - but to make a big deal out of something like paying, touching, conversation, etc. - would just be a red flag to me.
I understand that you do not agree with this. So how do you tell the woman that you are asking out that you will not be paying for her? How do they respond to this?
Yeah that is what I want to know as well.
Glad I am not in the dating world anymore.
If I were a guy that obsessed though, really it seems like the logical thing to do would be just to do free dates, where you meet at a prearranged place. You can't pick the girl up, otherwise you might have to charge her for her portion of the gas money.
If I were a guy that obsessed though, really it seems like the logical thing to do would be just to do free dates, where you meet at a prearranged place. You can't pick the girl up, otherwise you might have to charge her for her portion of the gas money.
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Why do the men get bashed if they suggest that the women pay 50% but it's totally ok for the women to expect that then men pay 100%?
Just because you raise a red flag doesn't mean that there's danger. That's most of the reason that I'm involved in this thread.
Don't assume that I'm arguing from a personal standpoint.
As I said up thread, I argue in favor of legalizing marijuana but I've never smoked and have no intention to smoke.
Then I'm not quite sure why you are arguing in the first place. This thread is basically just personal opinions. I have my opinion and I know why. You are free to have a different opinion or the same opinion. This is not a mathematical equation where there is one correct answer. If a man wants to ask a woman out and tell her that he is not going to spend a cent on her - he's free to do so. That woman is free to either accept the date or move on. I'm not sure what the big deal is. Many of us would feel that the guy is either cheap or ungenerous. And if we refused, the guy might feel that he dodged the bullet because we are gold diggers. And I still don't see what the big deal is.
Why do the men get bashed if they suggest that the women pay 50% but it's totally ok for the women to expect that then men pay 100%?
Because women have weak arms and small brains. It's hard for us to count out the proper bill denominations, so it just seems better to have a man do it.
Then I'm not quite sure why you are arguing in the first place.
Because of this
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Many of us would feel that the guy is either cheap or ungenerous. And if we refused, the guy might feel that he dodged the bullet because we are gold diggers. And I still don't see what the big deal is.
You may feel a guy is cheap or ungenerous, but he may not be.
A guy may feel a woman is a gold digger, but she may not be.
And (many) people don't give these things any type of thought, they just go with what they've been told, and might be missing out on good opportunities.
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Because women have weak arms and small brains. It's hard for us to count out the proper bill denominations, so it just seems better to have a man do it.
Unfortunately, you're sarcasm is closer to the truth than you probably think.
You may feel a guy is cheap or ungenerous, but he may not be.
A guy may feel a woman is a gold digger, but she may not be.
And (many) people don't give these things any type of thought, they just go with what they've been told, and might be missing out on good opportunities.
Judging by the fact that it's never happened to me - I guess I didn't miss out on any opportunities. So again - what's the big deal?
Why do the men get bashed if they suggest that the women pay 50% but it's totally ok for the women to expect that then men pay 100%?
Who is bashing?
I'm just suggesting that would be the best solution for someone who was that concerned about the financial aspect of dating above all.
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