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That's typical for most men; works the other way around for most women; hence, the problems... The poll should've been separate.
I disagree. I know it's easy to generalize about men and assume all them think the same, but they don't. Just as all women don't think the same as each other. A lot of men can become very attached to someone after sex. Likewise, a lot of women can completely disconnect their emotions from sex.
As to the OP's question, I think sex early has the potential for clouding your judgment. It depends on who you are, whether you're able to detach your emotions from sex, and how good the sex is. I dated one girl where we had a great connection, but the sex was mediocre. What clouded my judgment there wasn't the sex. It was the worry that if I walked away, I would never meet anyone I had so much in common with. Likewise, I slept with someone who I had very little in common with, but was still very attracted to. I knew she was all wrong for me, but it was hard to walk away cause of the sexual chemistry. And it wasn't always easy to figure out where my feelings were coming from.
Likewise, I slept with someone who I had very little in common with, but was still very attracted to. I knew she was all wrong for me, but it was hard to walk away cause of the sexual chemistry. And it wasn't always easy to figure out where my feelings were coming from.
This exact same thing happened to me. I ended up trying to change her so she could work better with me and it was a mistake. Sleeping together too soon was not a good thing as I did not know her at all, and after that everything changed as we tried to force something that was not ever going to work otherwise...
Good stuff here. I agree completely, waiting is a good thing. Even a few weeks to a month is a very good idea! Lessons learned...
This exact same thing happened to me. I ended up trying to change her so she could work better with me and it was a mistake. Sleeping together too soon was not a good thing as I did not know her at all, and after that everything changed as we tried to force something that was not ever going to work otherwise...
I never tried to change her, but I did hope that the more time we spent together, the more I'd rub off on her. It never happened. Well it did, but that was a different kind of rubbing.
I agree. And even if its not so great, you will be so inclined to show the person the exit, but if you took more time in the first place you may be willing to give the person a second shot.
I think sex to early tends to mess things up in both a positive or negative way.
Sex is like a drug and it can cloud your judgment whether you have it now or later. Sex withdrawal also stinks and feels terrible. The bottom line is to realize that sex is virtually useless unless you want babies or are married, that way you are more certain to get sex and not suffer withdrawal. But when marriages go south the sex withdrawal can occur.
I dont know why, but every guy who pretended to want a relationship with me turned out to be completely different after we had sex. Some waited 3 dates, 2 dates, 8 dates...and then stopped hanging out afterwards. A guy I had dated several times, we never had sex or spent the night or seen each other naked. One night I decided to give him a BJ and then the next day he accused me of cheating with another guy he hated. I never spoke or seen him since. I think had I not giving him the BJ, we would have still been hanging out.
Another guy would call and text me everyday, and on the 3rd date I gave in and had oral sex with him, but wouldnt give him my 'fruit'. He never seen me again and ignored me on my birthday the next week.
Another guy, we dated about 5 times before having sex. He got mad at me one day cause I wouldnt come over and let him do me. 2 dates later, I gave it up to him all night...and he stopped calling and ignored me on my birthday. He just recently sent me an email saying he's been 'going through things'. That tells me nothing.
Make them puppies pant, and cry...and then dont give them ****. A real man will wait for as long as it takes. I think 4 months is good. Not 3 dates, but months. To the point where he realizes who you are, y';all have argued and fought a couple times. I rather have **** buddies than to expect a man Im dating to stick around after sex. Once a man shoots his load, he's back online looking for the next ho.
I dont know why, but every guy who pretended to want a relationship with me turned out to be completely different after we had sex. Some waited 3 dates, 2 dates, 8 dates...and then stopped hanging out afterwards.
Make them puppies pant, and cry...and then dont give them ****. A real man will wait for as long as it takes. I rather have **** buddies than to expect a man Im dating to stick around after sex. Once a man shoots his load, he's back online looking for the next ho.
Well my hubby and I had sex early on. I'm not sure if it clouded anyone's judgement but he asked me to marry him after we had known each other for only three weeks, lol so maybe.
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