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So, a friend has been trying to set me up with this guy from her office for months. I finally gave in, figured what the heck. What do I have to lose?
We exchanged emails this morning. He asked for a photo. I sent him the one I use for my online dating; it doesn't show my face. He said he wanted to see one with my face visible. This is not an unreasonable request, but I am not comfortable with it and said as much. Keep in mind this guy is still a stranger to me, and just a co-worker to my friend. Otherwise, I'd have met him already.
He told me he was not about to commit to spending money on a nice dinner with someone with a blurred face. I told him he didn't have to. I offered to meet him and my friend for lunch and he could give me a once over (my attempt at being comical). I'll buy my own lunch. Nope. He wanted to meet me alone and do dinner, because he enjoys dining out anyway, but wanted to see if I was worth the money to join him.
He lost me at that point, but when I am offering to meet him for lunch, when he and my friend (and others from their office) usually go out to lunch together, there is no extra effort or expense on his part. His focus was on money that he didn't even have to spend. I think he was trying to dangle it, make me work for it? Just another *ss who sees things in a transactional manner? It was probably the most ludicrous situation I have come across and it wasn't even online.
He told me he was not about to commit to spending money on a nice dinner with someone with a blurred face. I told him he didn't have to. I offered to meet him and my friend for lunch and he could give me a once over (my attempt at being comical). I'll buy my own lunch.
Thursday007: And all the men on here b**ch about women wanting the guy to buy them things and pick up the check - geesh. No commitment on his part at all if he doesn't like what he sees - geesh.
Nope. He wanted to meet me alone and do dinner, because he enjoys dining out anyway, but wanted to see if I was worth the money to join him.
Thursday007: They call that - go get a hooker or escort
He lost me at that point, but when I am offering to meet him for lunch, when he and my friend (and others from their office) usually go out to lunch together, there is no extra effort or expense on his part. His focus was on money that he didn't even have to spend. I think he was trying to dangle it, make me work for it? Just another *ss who sees things in a transactional manner? It was probably the most ludicrous situation I have come across and it wasn't even online.
Your thoughts?
It was the fact you still retained some control of the situation by keeping the photo of yourself to yourself and paying your own way gives him nothing to make you feel obligated to him for anything. He's got HUGE control issues.
Location: I never said I was perfect so no refunds here sorry!
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Well in as much as other people are involved with this hook-up or arrangement he probably wanted to make sure this wasn't a setup and the joke to be on him. The money drama may have just been used as an excuse in his attempt to protect his image. Now after you offered to pay your way it may have offended him that you were on your game and he was unprepared to respond to that. Why people make things so difficult is beyond me...
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