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Old 09-11-2009, 07:34 AM
 
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I've been thinking I hope he can live up to all he says.

You're right. You are assuming.
What site are you finding guys like this on? Is this some sort of high-end dating site or something like Match or POF?
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Old 09-11-2009, 10:44 AM
 
Location: In my skin
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I don't mean to burst your bubble but this reminds me of the story in the paper recently about the man from the reality show. Confident, well accomplished, a smooth talker, attractive, etc, etc. Yea ... he turned out to be a total nut job!

I am the exact opposite of you. The more someone sells themselves, the more I am weary. I would be asking, if this man is so great why does he feel the need to sell himself in such an artificial manner? Its like reading an add in the newspaper for a used car. Some ads make them out to seem like THEE best car in the world. But then it gets you thinking, if this car is soooo great, why the heck are they selling it??!! And of coure the answer is, the person just wants a new car, or doesn't need it anymore bla bla bla. But then you get it and several months down the line you realize its a piece of crap on wheels!
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I have asked myself this, again, I noticed the excess. I'm dating someone else right now, so there is no hurry to meet him. But I do enjoy chatting to him, he has a vast amount of valuable experience and wisdom to share
despite his lack of modesty.
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It may all be true but there is such a thing as modesty.
I agree.

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Plus, sounds like the guy is always going to consider himself better than his partner and will be looking to replace her. I also doubt he would put much effort into a relationship considering he's so *great* she should be happy to breathe the same air as him.
Maybe, can't say it's that bad but it's possible, sure. I don't see the allure in that at all. I've let him know (as I do with everyone on that site - seekingarrangement.com, by the way) that I'm not as easily stirred by money as some would think.

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P.S. Is the guy tall?
6'1"

Keep in mind peeps, I brought this up to open discussion, but I am not bashing him. I have met plenty of him offline, so it can happen at any time. He is a great conversationalist and has even referred me to some of his colleagues for work. This particular issue may make him incompatible relationship wise, but I respect him in other ways.
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Old 09-11-2009, 10:50 AM
 
Location: lala land
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Keep in mind peeps, I brought this up to open discussion, but I am not bashing him. I have met plenty of him offline, so it can happen at any time. He is a great conversationalist and has even referred me to some of his colleagues for work. This particular issue may make him incompatible relationship wise, but I respect him in other ways.
Let us know how it works out Chocolate . This one actually has me curious.
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Old 09-11-2009, 12:44 PM
 
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I agree.



Maybe, can't say it's that bad but it's possible, sure. I don't see the allure in that at all. I've let him know (as I do with everyone on that site - seekingarrangement.com, by the way) that I'm not as easily stirred by money as some would think.



6'1"

Keep in mind peeps, I brought this up to open discussion, but I am not bashing him. I have met plenty of him offline, so it can happen at any time. He is a great conversationalist and has even referred me to some of his colleagues for work. This particular issue may make him incompatible relationship wise, but I respect him in other ways.
Good luck. If it's your cup of tea then go for it but frankly from your posts here over time I think you can do better. (You should tell him that...lol...his head would probably explode. )

Yeah, I'd have bet anything he was >6'0 judging from your and his comments.
I know girl that has run into a couple guys like this at her gym...the kind that are doing YOU the favor of spending time with you.
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Old 09-11-2009, 12:49 PM
 
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What site are you finding guys like this on? Is this some sort of high-end dating site or something like Match or POF?

Its probably the sugar daddy site. Those men want control of their lives, and that includes their women.They want control of everything, thats why they aren't in a dating site where chance plays more of a game.
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Old 09-11-2009, 02:11 PM
 
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Its probably the sugar daddy site. Those men want control of their lives, and that includes their women.They want control of everything, thats why they aren't in a dating site where chance plays more of a game.
Yuck. Again, a sugar daddy by definition is going to want a much younger, much more attractive woman.

So, if you go for these types of online arrangements then i'd expect to get horizontal with a much older guy that isn't that attractive.....OR....if the guy IS attractive he might just be a poser trolling his way through fields for some easy sex.

Like in the movie "I love you man"....lol...guy would take women to open houses (for sale) of multi-million dollar properties to give the illusion he was loaded and get some easy action.
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Old 09-11-2009, 03:38 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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Its probably the sugar daddy site. Those men want control of their lives, and that includes their women.They want control of everything, thats why they aren't in a dating site where chance plays more of a game.
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Yuck. Again, a sugar daddy by definition is going to want a much younger, much more attractive woman.

So, if you go for these types of online arrangements then i'd expect to get horizontal with a much older guy that isn't that attractive.....OR....if the guy IS attractive he might just be a poser trolling his way through fields for some easy sex.

Like in the movie "I love you man"....lol...guy would take women to open houses (for sale) of multi-million dollar properties to give the illusion he was loaded and get some easy action.
Wow, and I say this respectfully, you're both following the opinions of those who typically have no clue or experience. They're controlling, ugly old men or they're posers.

There are so many different reasons for these men to be there. Many of them really do want something meaningful but their age, looks or lack of time make it difficult. Some have actually resigned to the idea that all they have to offer is their money. It is really unfortunate.

I am also not on there for an arrangement. I am there because there is a better chance of finding a successful man; with this comes stability and security. Certainly not in all cases, on or offline, but if I want something in particular, I'm going to shop where I am more likely to find it.

There are certainly jerks on there, as there are on many other sites and offline as well. My profile is worded to target the men who are actually looking for something with substance and to discourage those who aren't from contacting me. So far, it has been a good experience. I am certainly not compatible with all of them, but they have been gentlemanly and respectful for the most part.

It certainly blew away the sheeples' take on it for me.
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Old 09-11-2009, 03:42 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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Good luck. If it's your cup of tea then go for it but frankly from your posts here over time I think you can do better. (You should tell him that...lol...his head would probably explode. )
Why, thank you, sir. LOL.

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Yeah, I'd have bet anything he was >6'0 judging from your and his comments.
I know girl that has run into a couple guys like this at her gym...the kind that are doing YOU the favor of spending time with you.
Heh, I can bust that bubble really quickly given the right inspiration.
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Old 09-11-2009, 04:54 PM
 
Location: Orlando, FL
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Wow everything about me is loud.

I have a T-shirt that says "You Might Not Know Perfect But This Is It". I used to have a pair of shorts that said "and I'm smart too" right on my booty

My Myspace says "I'm not conceited; I'm just fully aware of the (a long group of adjectives) that I possess.

I've been that way ever since I was a little kid though
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Old 09-11-2009, 05:03 PM
 
Location: Space Coast
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I think it's ok for confident people to express it. Where I draw the line is when someone puts down others in the process.
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