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Clearly he has a whole set of new priorities and none of them currently include you. He's newly married and has a wife plus they are traveling it sounds like enjoying themselves and there you are...put yourself in his shoes, he actually is being very kind to you. Just do a disappearing act and don't look back. if he wishes to talk or cmmunicate he'll contact you.
He may not be bragging. He may be explaining that he's not sitting home in the same town with you blowing you off, he's actually out and about. I travel about 6 months of the year and have to remind my friends that I'm not around the corner, I'm off working. However, I don't think this dude is your friend. I think he's an opportunist who would have bedded you if he could have (which is why he didn't want you to know about the girlfriend). Now he has a mate and has no need for you. It happens with femal female friendships too! Once the opportunist gets a better 'friend' they have no need for you.
Friendships change over time, but friendships with someone of the opposite sex are especially tricky. I've been friends with this guy since we were 5 years old. There are times when we are close, and times when we barely talk. I know deep down that I will always care for him and him for me, no matter how often I see him. In the past whenever he got a girlfriend he would sometimes blow me off, and I'm sure I did the same with him. If the friendship has any real substance, try not to take it personally.
Maybe this is just a transition in your relationship, or maybe it is over. I know it hurts either way. Try to move on, but give your friend the benefit of the doubt. Maybe he sensed your feelings and didn't want to hurt you, and maybe he knows the best thing for the both of you is to part ways.
I even went through this when my best girlfriend got married! I felt betrayed in a way because she just went off and married this guy she had only known for a week! We now have very separate lives but we keep in touch, although at times it is sporadic. It can be an adjustment, but if they are a true friend, the friendship will last.
And he says i was always taken so he never persued me.
A rather open comment there.
I guess regardless of whatever reason he changed, he does have a wife, and like some here have said, opposite sex friendships can be tricky for committed people. I'm sorry you seem to have lost a good friend but it would probably be best to leave the ball in his court.
thanks everyone for your advice..i will definately take it into consideration and i feel it would be best for me to just discontinue our friendship. If he calls we can catch up on our lives or what not but any further communication from my end to him will no longer play a part.
Not normal for a friend to be dating and engaged to someone and even marry w/o you knowing.
I'd stop the calls and if something is vital...email him if you can't get someone else to do it. Clearly your friendship means more to you than it does to him.
Dead on.
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