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No. I like to read, history, philosophy, psychology, english literature. I like to travel and learn about other cultures and countries. I like art museums, galleries, NY plays and theatre, and the opera. .
No. I like to read, history, philosophy, psychology, english literature. I like to travel and learn about other cultures and countries. I like art museums, galleries, NY plays and theatre, and the opera. .
What would you think about being married to someone who was not as smart as you are? Does your husband or wife have the smarts you have? Do they challenge you intellectually?
The reason I ask is many of the women I know tell me they do not want to marry a smart man but someone sexy. (Not that someone can not be both). A number of women at the office was talking about the Men on the TV Show "Lost" and who they most wanted to marry. Was it Jack the smart Doctor? Or Hurley the soft and sweet man-child? Or Sawyer, the brunting, dark (in mood) macho type- who is not so bright. Most of the women wanted to get married to the Macho dark and dangerous Sawyer.
Brains are out, Macho and Dark at in.
There's not even a question on this one in my mind... I don't have to think about it at all... It isn't even an option:
I have learned that physical attraction can develop & become very intense. There MUST be chemistry because us, but the rest can develop.
My king (as I dream of him being) MUST be, at minimum, at least as intelligent as I am. I would prefer that he's got quite a bit more going on (intellectually, spiritually, & in the street-smarts & wisdom areas - which are all part of the "intelligence" package to me) than I do, but it is not necessary.
I was married before & at that point in my life I thought I loved a "project" & the kind of "being needed" that comes from someone who doesn't have a lot of smarts (I know that sounds mean & arrogant & snobbish, but it is what it is). It worked for a while until I grew up. Then it became almost embarrassing at how little he knew about almost everything. He didn't really have one thing going from him in the "smarts" department, honestly. Okay, he did know a lot of scriptures from the Bible. But, that was it.
Intelligence is a STRONG & INTENSE turn-on for me. More so, probably, than being super physically appealing.
I enjoy my brain being stimulated in many diverse ways. I must have it. I am a pretty strong & intelligent woman & that requires a man who is strong, secure, & smart enough to at least hold his own with me or he won't stand a chance.
I know women, lots of them, who prefer men to be a step or two or three below them in these areas because it makes them feel needed & more powerful. I don't need any such illusions/delusions. I want one smart cookie!!!
Oh, and if he's "dark" (as mentioned in the quote) that's just an extra added bonus...
What difference does it make as long as you love and respect each other?
I'm not certain "what" difference it makes, but it does make a HUGE difference for me. I have several family members whom I love & respect but after spending a couple hours with them I feel like several hundred thousand million billion () of my brain cells went through a long & painful death in the process. My brain hurts from all the inane conversation.
That just wouldn't cut it in a life partner. I can hold my own in any sort of conversation with any sort of person from any sort of background. But, I simply do not want to be partnered with someone as described above.
What would you think about being married to someone who was not as smart as you are? Does your husband or wife have the smarts you have? Do they challenge you intellectually?
The reason I ask is many of the women I know tell me they do not want to marry a smart man but someone sexy. (Not that someone can not be both). A number of women at the office was talking about the Men on the TV Show "Lost" and who they most wanted to marry. Was it Jack the smart Doctor? Or Hurley the soft and sweet man-child? Or Sawyer, the brunting, dark (in mood) macho type- who is not so bright. Most of the women wanted to get married to the Macho dark and dangerous Sawyer.
Brains are out, Macho and Dark at in.
No offense but the women at your office sound frighteningly brainwashed...'lost' if you will
Anyway my wife is as close as I've found so far intellectually,however it does present a challenge because we are both very strong minded and tend to end up in debates even when it's unintentional
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