I'm 28, He's 41 (married, woman, older, children)

[woxyroxme]

If you did not know how old he was then what would you think of him?

How does he treat you?

Is he a nice, good hearted person on the inside?

How much do you enjoy being around him? How do you feel when you are together?

These are things that could just as easily be applied to weight, looks, and income level as well. Most relationships that fail do so because of misplaced priorities and being with someone for the wrong reasons.

[ChessieMom]

When I was 27, I was in a fairly serious relationship with a 41 year old, but the differences between us were too great. I wasn't ready to settle down, he was. He was terribly possesive, and very "old school" about many things, where I was not. Eventually I ended things. But that was me - everyone is different. If it works for you, go for it.

[yellowsnow]

Have fun and don't rush into anything. You'll get to know him better over time and learn more about the age question.

12 years would be no big deal at 28 and 41. It might be a big deal when you are 50 and he is 63. Just think about it down the road as well.

[GypsySoul22]

As long as you and your boyfriend are happy, who cares about age? 41 is not ancient and 28 is not a baby.
My brother in law always seems to date women very much younger or older than himself. Some people like a big age difference or perhaps it is just 'the way it is.'

People get too caught up in numbers. You can have a 28 year old stick in the mud guy who doesn't do anything but drink beer, watch sports and warm the sofa. Is that better because he is your age?

[tamajane]

Does he have gray hair?

[picklejuice]

15 yrs. or more WOULD be a problem. Especially for a marriage situation. Really think through this one!

[DFWgal]

Originally Posted by moonshadow

Why you gotta get all caught up in the math?

Just enjoy the moment and see where that takes you.

Exactly. If the difference is already bothering, think of it as a non-permanent relationship.

[gman6974]

Ehhh no offense, but I don't see that lasting long. But have fun while it last.

[HookTheBrotherUp]

I am 10 years older than my wife (11 years for a couple of months), it was I that had the concern, she never did... and eight years and four kids later, things are great, the age issue, other than a tease, never affects our lives.

[Pastelito de limon]

My parents are 12 yrs. apart in age (only my mom is the older one) and they've been married almost 30 years...said it was never a big issue except for when to have kids.