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y'know, the more i think about it, the more i think it might already be, otherwise you probably wouldn't have posted up to ask.
it doesn't necessarily mean the end, or that you shouldn't try, but just go into it with your eyes open. if any problems do arise, deal with them straight away, don't let them drag out, and you'll be fine.
think of it like driving your car with a leaking radiator, you know there's a possible problem, so you keep your eye on the temperature gauge, and don't let it get too high. stop and put water in, and you'll get where you need to be without roasting the engine.
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Too much of an age difference (generally speaking)? We get along fairly well, although it's way too early to tell if it'll go anywhere. I just don't want to keep this up if age is going to be an issue. I know it's different in every case, but I'm a typical 28, I don't know enough about him to say if he's young at heart or not. We have fun going out, but don't know if pursuing this is wise considering he's about 12 yrs older.
I know a woman that when she was 35, she married a 19 year old guy, they were so well suited for each other and as far as I know, they are still together and she should be a senior citizen now. They just belonged together and were a joy to be around. I have lost touch with them over the years.
Had a 35+ year old brother in law that married a lot younger (early 20's) and they have raise 2 children and have a wonderful relationship.
A little more insight, he's a doctor, a surgeon on top of it. I'm not seeing him for his money, if I was, I wouldn't even be questioning it on this board. I really do like the fact he is very smart. I don't know how often someone like this comes along. Would this affect your decision?
A little more insight, he's a doctor, a surgeon on top of it. I'm not seeing him for his money, if I was, I wouldn't even be questioning it on this board. I really do like the fact he is very smart. I don't know how often someone like this comes along. Would this affect your decision?
A plastic surgeon? Might be a couple of benefits there for you.
I know a woman that when she was 35, she married a 19 year old guy, they were so well suited for each other and as far as I know, they are still together and she should be a senior citizen now. They just belonged together and were a joy to be around. I have lost touch with them over the years.
Had a 35+ year old brother in law that married a lot younger (early 20's) and they have raise 2 children and have a wonderful relationship.
No offense, but 35 and 19 is a little creepy. She could almost be his mother.
When I was 27, I was in a fairly serious relationship with a 41 year old, but the differences between us were too great. I wasn't ready to settle down, he was. He was terribly possesive, and very "old school" about many things, where I was not. Eventually I ended things. But that was me - everyone is different. If it works for you, go for it.
How long ago was this? I'm 41 and we're not as "old school" as we used to be Seriously, as an example, much as technology permeates the younger generation today, at least we had in our late 20s much of the things todays people that age have tech wise, just on much simpler levels. Whereas when I was 27 most 40 somethings I knew were almost as clueless around a computer (and more so the nascent Internet) as many seniors today. I also don't think the Gen X vs. Gen Y divide culturally is as stiff as it was between Gen X and the baby boomers (not that they're exactly the same, but just less difference, like I don't think Gen Y resents or blames Gen X bosses with today's recession the way we did baby boomers in the early 90s recession, nor to reverse it do we think you're all lazy slackers like they did us circa 1992 or so, but I'm generalizing and not looking to start a 2nd thread here).
That said, my dad was 41 and my mom 25 when they got married (and I was born a year later). The main issue was that my mom was relatively young (late 50s) dealing with a sick and dying man (and that assumes the older of the couple doesn't live to 90 or 100). But other than that you should be OK and you're talking 12 years, not 16.
How long ago was this? I'm 41 and we're not as "old school" as we used to be Seriously, as an example, much as technology permeates the younger generation today, at least we had in our late 20s much of the things todays people that age have tech wise, just on much simpler levels. Whereas when I was 27 most 40 somethings I knew were almost as clueless around a computer (and more so the nascent Internet) as many seniors today. I also don't think the Gen X vs. Gen Y divide culturally is as stiff as it was between Gen X and the baby boomers (not that they're exactly the same, but just less difference, like I don't think Gen Y resents or blames Gen X bosses with today's recession the way we did baby boomers in the early 90s recession, nor to reverse it do we think you're all lazy slackers like they did us circa 1992 or so, but I'm generalizing and not looking to start a 2nd thread here).
That said, my dad was 41 and my mom 25 when they got married (and I was born a year later). The main issue was that my mom was relatively young (late 50s) dealing with a sick and dying man (and that assumes the older of the couple doesn't live to 90 or 100). But other than that you should be OK and you're talking 12 years, not 16.
Well I am 41 and I am old school. I have friends of all ages but when it comes to a relationship I would not have much in common with someone in their twenties. Some people don't care about matching generational experience so it wouldn't matter to them. But I would not deny that those differences exist. There is nothing that makes me feel closer to a person than having been through life in sync. If that is not important, then go for it - have fun, but know that there will be differences to deal with if not now, at some point.
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What kind?
Might be a couple of benefits there for you. 
