Do you think people are ever attracted to you when you go out? (men, young)

[yankeegirl313]

I did not read any of the responses...just the question.
No. I don`t care if people are attracted to me when we go out. I`m not dressed to kill, for their benefit. Only my husband.

[nat_at772]

A guy was looking at me today while I was in the check out line at the grocery store...then he asked me if I knew where some restaurant was. Gee, all the people working here and you're asking me? Maybe I looked like I just finished eating

[Chowhound]

I never notice if a woman is checking me out. Mrs. Chow will sometimes tell me afterwards that a woman was flirting me or checking me out.

[nitokenshi]

no.

[John McClane]

never notice if a woman is checking me out. Mrs. Chow will sometimes tell me afterwards that a woman was flirting me or checking me out.

Are you the owner of Mr. Chow's Chinese restaurant ?

[TheTimidBlueBars]

I get the odd look from women in cafes, but IIRC there are studies showing that being in a group (especially a group of attractive people) makes others perceive you as more attractive, and I'm almost always alone.

I have a decent build, I groom myself and don't smell bad, and I have a pretty masculine face, so that stuff probably helps - but I'm not the snazziest dresser and I've been told my body language appears a little awkward and makes me look more nervous than I am. Meh.

[At Arms Length]

It happened once I think? She was a register attendant at a restaurant a few months ago. Without digging up the post I made about it, what I recall is that she was very smiley and looked my way often even as she did other duties like sweeping.

[james112]

I don't think I'm attractive but I'll tell you some times I've been approached by girls over the years.

Way back in high school I was with my parents at a theme park and set out alone in the park and two girls approached me, and we went on rides together.

Also back in high school I'm sitting in first day of class. Students are walking in to find seats. She walks in and notices me immediately. She comes and sits right next to me. Later there is a class bus trip. She signs me up to sit next to her.

On several occasions I've been out shopping at the mall and just standing there looking at something and a woman will come up and talk to me. Just happened yesterday at the grocery store. She was very friendly and started talking to me about the vegetable I was thinking of buying.

Years ago when I was married a woman approached me in a store and started a very friendly conversation. I told my wife about her when I got home.

At the book store a woman came up and just started a conversation, told me her name.

Another time I was the only person in the book aisle looking at a book and a woman comes right next to me looking at a book 3 feet from me on the bottom shelf. She is squatting and her hand is on a book on the bottom shelf and I'm standing next to her. No one else in the aisle.

A few years ago I was checking out at the grocery store and found out the beautiful cashier was from a country that just had a hurricane and she had family there she could not get into contact with. I gave her a hug. Yes, a cashier I didn't know, a hug. I left thinking I really shouldn't have done that. A few weeks later I see her again at the vegetables and I came up to her and when she recognizes me she gives ME a hug. Her family was ok. That's the only time a cashier ever gave me a hug.

Another time I was at a park alone and sitting on the bench. A woman was passing by and she gave me a very nice smile, it was almost like we knew each other.

I never go to bars. However I was on a business trip and decided I would one night. As soon as I walk in, a waitress is looking me over like she can't wait to serve me.

Which reminds me of the time I went to Hooters alone to get lunch. Which I've been once. I'm not kidding, the waitress asks what I'm doing later.

After a job meeting with clients we where in the parking lot heading for our cars. This lady client I'm talking to as we head for our cars is not heading for her car, but remains standing in front of me and has a look as if waiting for me to ask her out.

At church we had an ongoing bowling night and I was on a team with several married women. I'm single. I show up one night and I don't know why but one of the married women calls out my name "Hi James!" and gives me the biggest hug. Just because I showed up?

Seriously I dress in jeans and tee shirts most the time and never considered myself eye catching attractive. I thought this happens to all guys.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by james112

I don't think I'm attractive but I'll tell you some times I've been approached by girls over the years.

Way back in high school I was with my parents at a theme park and set out alone in the park and two girls approached me, and we went on rides together.

Also back in high school I'm sitting in first day of class. Students are walking in to find seats. She walks in and notices me immediately. She comes and sits right next to me. Later there is a class bus trip. She signs me up to sit next to her.

On several occasions I've been out shopping at the mall and just standing there looking at something and a woman will come up and talk to me. Just happened yesterday at the grocery store. She was very friendly and started talking to me about the vegetable I was thinking of buying.

See, shy guys? This is how it's done! Take notes.

Originally Posted by james112;

Years ago when I was married a woman approached me in a store and started a very friendly conversation. I told my wife about her when I got home.

At the book store a woman came up and just started a conversation, told me her name.

Another time I was the only person in the book aisle looking at a book and a woman comes right next to me looking at a book 3 feet from me on the bottom shelf. She is squatting and her hand is on a book on the bottom shelf and I'm standing next to her. No one else in the aisle.

A few years ago I was checking out at the grocery store and found out the beautiful cashier was from a country that just had a hurricane and she had family there she could not get into contact with. I gave her a hug. Yes, a cashier I didn't know, a hug. I left thinking I really shouldn't have done that. A few weeks later I see her again at the vegetables and I came up to her and when she recognizes me she gives ME a hug. Her family was ok. That's the only time a cashier ever gave me a hug.

Another time I was at a park alone and sitting on the bench. A woman was passing by and she gave me a very nice smile, it was almost like we knew each other.

I never go to bars. However I was on a business trip and decided I would one night. As soon as I walk in, a waitress is looking me over like she can't wait to serve me.

Which reminds me of the time I went to Hooters alone to get lunch. I'm not kidding, the waitress asks what I'm doing later.

After a job meeting with clients we where in the parking lot heading for our cars. This lady client I'm talking to as we head for our cars is not heading for her car, but remains standing in front of me and has a look as if waiting for me to ask her out.

At church we had an ongoing bowling night and I was on a team with several married women. I'm single. I show up one night and I don't know why but one of the married women calls out my name "Hi James!" and gives me the biggest hug. Just because I showed up?

Seriously I dress in jeans and tee shirts most the time and never considered myself eye catching attractive. I thought this happens to all guys.

And men say women never approach! Women approach plenty. Plennn-T! James, you may not be attractive in a conventional sense, IDK (maybe you are, but you don't see it), but something about you is getting women's attention.

You never know what it might be, that might be catching their interest. I have a friend, who's always been mildly obese. He's never been approached by women in public, only in certain circles, where he's known as a musician. But a couple of years ago, after he got new glasses, suddenly young women (he's pushing 60, and looks it) started walking up to him whenever he was out walking his dog, and giving him their numbers! This is in SEATTLE, where the techies complain the women are cold and snooty!! He didn't know what it was, that was generating this sudden interest, until he switched back to his old glasses frames. Suddenly the random attention stopped. lol. I've never seen these magic glasses of his; I'm really curious about them now.

[The Dissenter]

I don’t think I’ve ever been checked out. At least not obviously.