Beware of those who boast about how honest they are

[eger]

Originally Posted by PassTheChocolate

"Brutal honesty, that's what I'm about."

"I tell it like it is. The truth hurts, deal with it."

"I don't sugarcoat anything."

How many of you have heard this type of thing from someone on a regular basis? What was your impression of them?

Personally, I give them . I find, in almost every case, these people are emotional vampires who's intention is not to enlighten or help you with the truth, but to purposely offend and alienate you. It's all about the shock factor that ultimately makes them the center of attention.

You're right, I had a friend like this and he would always try and correct you or give his opinion. He would constantly argue for the sake of arguing even if he was wrong.

I was brutally honest when I was younger and immature. Sometimes you have to know what to say and when to say it; have some tact.

[valeeighty2]

Originally Posted by Danbo1957

I agree. And it's never rude to tell the truth always...

Ditto...

I personally am very honest, no sugarcoating anything... but there is a way of saying things... a lot of people need "filters"... some people just let it alll come out of their mouth without any awarness of the people who hear them...

[JustJulia]

Originally Posted by Danbo1957

I agree. And it's never rude to tell the truth always...

I disagree. There was a thread a while back where a woman thought it was funny when her friend would break up with men for having small penises. "I am not attracted to you because you have a tiny penis and I find that to be less than manly" may be honest--this woman was much more crass, but still--but it was also roundly condemned by nearly everyone who responded as cruel and uncalled-for. Most people suggested a softer, more evasive statement like, "I don't think we have much in common" or "I don't see this relationship going anywhere" to spare the man's feelings.

[PRINCESSNOTICE]

Well I do not boast about being opinionated, once you talk to me you will figure that out all on your own

I often do tell people that I tell it like it is, but I am tactful, DEPENDING on the situation. Like if a friend is telling me all about a cheating mate, I am not going to sugarcoat anything and let her know what I think she should do, either you take the advice or you leave it where you found it. I hate when people give me a sweet answer because they think that is the right thing to do.

The only reason I tell people that I get straight to the point because I am warning them about what they are about to get into. No. I am not rude, but dont expect me to hold you hand. Funny thing is, everyone ALWAYS comes to me with their problems and asks for my advice.

My brother and I was having a conversation the other day with a few other people and someone asked me something, they didnt like my answer and my brother says, You are such a Ahole!! I laughed and said you know it, but the person came back another day for my of my Ahole advice.

Honesty is always the best policy in my book.

[fleetiebelle]

As a general rule, people who brag about how honest (or how smart, or how good in bed, or how cool) they are should be avoided completely. If you're really that great or whatever, you don't have to tell people. They'll know.

And like everyone has said, "hey, I'm just being honest" is usually code for "hey, I have no tact."