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I know several 30 and 40 something guys who are always complaining about their wives, wishing they were divorced, advising single guys to not get married in all seriousness, etc. They can't stand their wives but love their children very much. They are willing to put up with the wife in order to keep the family whole for the children's benefit.
stay in that marriage. I think men are afraid to admit how much they really adore their wives. I guess it's not manly to be able to say, "I can't stand her, but god help me if I ever have to live without her." any ideas?
My buddy stays for his kids even though he is miserable and his wife is a horrible person.
I'm the only single guy out of my buddies (we are all 35-50)...no way in heck I'm going to tell them how happy I am and certainly not how much great sex I have. They might punch me.
why do some men claim to feel miserable when married, but stay in that marriage...
Because divorce is brutally disruptive emotionally, psychologically, financially. Because divorce frequently causes extraordinary, lifelong financial hardship for children. Because the stereotype of an unhappy couple constantly screaming, fighting, etc. is often false -- unhappy couples can be pleasant to one another, responsible, reasonable, and provide a good home for their children while at the same time remaining in a passionless marriage. Because the unknowns of divorce -- will a step-parent or S.O. harm my child? will I find someone to be with who is better? -- are very real.
Bottom line: becasue many things in life are rarely black-and-white decisions
It's a lot easier to have a roommate type of marriage then to go through some BS divorce battle.
True. Only when her anger gets to the point that he might fear for his life will many men make the final move. Fear of losing his children, living in substandard accommodation and only having an old car (if he can even afford one) are also a factor.
This is why women initiate most divorce proceedings. At some point, they want to move on, usually because they now have something better to go to. At that time, they want the house and his money to pursue their dreams.
stay in that marriage. I think men are afraid to admit how much they really adore their wives. I guess it's not manly to be able to say, "I can't stand her, but god help me if I ever have to live without her." any ideas?
You're kidding, right? How old are you? There are a million reasons why people stay in loveless marriages.
stay in that marriage. I think men are afraid to admit how much they really adore their wives. I guess it's not manly to be able to say, "I can't stand her, but god help me if I ever have to live without her." any ideas?
I'll be honest with you. I do adore my wife. And I often cannot stand her. We are simply not compatible. And I do stay in the marriage for two reasons. First of all, I do not want to live life without my children. Secondly, I do not want to be alone or out there dating.
Has nothing to do with what is manly and what is not. It's a simple fact - I have no options.
You're kidding, right? How old are you? There are a million reasons why people stay in loveless marriages.
I's 25, but I think it's cowardice to stay in a loveless marriage, I personally would rather be alone (this is what I can't understand) this is why I asked the question on this forum.
I's 25, but I think it's cowardice to stay in a loveless marriage, I personally would rather be alone (this is what I can't understand) this is why I asked the question on this forum.
1. You are a woman.
2. You do not have children.
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