Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
The financial cost of divorce can be excruciating for a man. Some Family Court judges seem to rule based on the way society was in the 1950s.
Some of my divorced male friends call it "Women's Court".
When I got divorced, I got just over half the debt, but less than half the assets. This while the ex made 3x more money than I did. Lord knows if our respective incomes had been reversed, she could probably stop working while I'd be dead broke.
Maybe those with those thoughts shan't get married in the first place. I mean . damn , why would anyone in their right mind voluntarily do something they believe they will regret. Also if those men and women truly love each other , what's the impetus for misery? Or is it just whining to congeal with the masses?
Maybe those with those thoughts shan't get married in the first place. I mean . damn , why would anyone in their right mind voluntarily do something they believe they will regret. Also if those men and women truly love each other , what's the impetus for misery? Or is it just whining to congeal with the masses?
Because divorce is brutally disruptive emotionally, psychologically, financially. Because divorce frequently causes extraordinary, lifelong financial hardship for children. Because the stereotype of an unhappy couple constantly screaming, fighting, etc. is often false -- unhappy couples can be pleasant to one another, responsible, reasonable, and provide a good home for their children while at the same time remaining in a passionless marriage. Because the unknowns of divorce -- will a step-parent or S.O. harm my child? will I find someone to be with who is better? -- are very real.
Bottom line: becasue many things in life are rarely black-and-white decisions
I agree with this.
I also agree with these:
Quote:
Originally Posted by Morphous01
Why? Because of SCREWY American TV culture! Over the years TV has been the mechanism that has trained young males how to generally treat women. It's just a shame.
Quote:
Originally Posted by WFW&P
Cynicism. It's popular culture to portray the marriage as a burden rather than a source of joy. Rather than say "I should get home so I can spend some time with my wife" it goes more to the effect of "I better get home so I don't have to hear the ball & chain yap at me the rest of the night."
No doubt there are men in unhappy marriages and their wives are PITAs. But it is such a common theme that I envision all of them all colorful like with feathers and beaks repeating what is cool so they can belong.
It is a bad example for the children to see their parents not getting along all the time. That is not how a marriage should be, it sounds like you are stuck., Children grow up and live and then what, they remember the bad examples.
Honestly its, family pressure, money, and kids. Not necessarily in that order of importance.
I feel awful for the men I know whos ex's move to the west coast, and they are stuck here on the east, and the ex's take the kids with them. It doesn't matter what kind of visitation agreement you might have at that point, most of us can't afford to fly the kids over every other weekend, or to give up our job because we are paying child support to move closer to the kids.
stay in that marriage. I think men are afraid to admit how much they really adore their wives. I guess it's not manly to be able to say, "I can't stand her, but god help me if I ever have to live without her." any ideas?
I think you've nailed it pretty well. You drive us crazy, but we don't want to be without you either.
We "love you anyway".
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
