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one of the toughest and testing endeavors you will partake in......that said your life will be enriched beyond belief, your heart will feel emotion and love beyond anything you have experienced.
Your free time and private time disappear, those intimate private moments with your spouse seemingly just fade for some time. If you go into it prepared and ready for that measure of commitment then you will be truly rewarded
one of the toughest and testing endeavors you will partake in......that said your life will be enriched beyond belief, your heart will feel emotion and love beyond anything you have experienced.
Your free time and private time disappear, those intimate private moments with your spouse seemingly just fade for some time. If you go into it prepared and ready for that measure of commitment then you will be truly rewarded
Tried to rep ya', but the powers that be want me to spread the love around first.
how does having kids affect the relationship with husband and wife?
in a nutshell,
it makes the good things better
and it makes the bad things worse
the cracks already in the relationship will get worse
just make sure you don't have kids for the "wrong reasons" such as trying to please the grandparents, or trying to "fix" problems in a relationship, or trying to please your spouse
i used to hate it when pregnant with our first child, people kept saying "your life will never be the same, your marriage will never be the same" because I would think to myself "but I like my life, i like my marriage just the way it is." But they were right.
Men can get upset about feeling they have been displaced, that baby and the mom get all the attention and they are unimportant and left out in the cold. Men can get upset about not receiving the same level of time and attention from their wife. Men can get upset about less sex, periods with no sex, wife not being in the mood for sex for a variety of reasons. Men can "lose their sex drive" towards a woman when she turns in his mind from "wife" or "lover" to "mom." A lot of men share very honestly that they don't see their wife as "sexy" anymore once they see her as a mom.
Those are real. They do happen. You are asking in the opening very good questions. It is better to go into a major life change with your eyes open and a realistic view. Good for you for asking.
Most of our arguments are over our son. My husband and I have 'somewhat' different parenting styles. He tends to over-react over things I try to be more mellow about and visa versa.
We were married 5 years before we had our son. I love being a mom and our family is complete with my son and (now) our dog.
Having kid(s) does alter a relationship. Someone has to get up with the baby. Someone has to earn $. Kids get sick. You get sleep deprived.
Most of our arguments are over our son. My husband and I have 'somewhat' different parenting styles. He tends to over-react over things I try to be more mellow about and visa versa.
gypsy makes a good point here.
we ended up arguing about things that were never even an issue until we had kids....how to raise the kids, how to discipline the kids, how to treat kids with respect, how to spend money or not on the kids, what to feed the kids, how to educate the kids, on and on and on.
Raising a family is stressful! Especially, if you have a partner who is passive and leaves all the disciplining up to you.. It may end up being a good cop, bad cop scenario-which I can tell you it gets old fast!
Hopefully, you and your chosen mate compliment each other. It will still be hard work, but at least a work together
Sorry Hobo, I haven't gotten much sleep lately, so my mind is a little slow...
It has had a negative affect on our relationship, due to the stress. We don't have much family support though, and you MUST have that to survive it-IMO.
Totally agree with this if you both have strong personalities that would be better in raising kids it does put alot of stress on your relationship. I am being honest.
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