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Old 10-31-2009, 08:50 AM
 
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What do women think of men that like to be on there own and do their own thing?


Would you even date or start a relationship with someone who doesn't have any close friends?



Would you date a "new guy" in town, that is a loner but also wants to meet some people?


How much importance do women put on a man's social surroundings?

 
Old 10-31-2009, 09:05 AM
 
Location: St Thomas, US Virgin Islands
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What do women think of men that like to be on there own and do their own thing?

A man who can enjoy his own company is a healthy man as long as it's not exclusive of also enjoying being with other people. There's a balance there.

Would you even date or start a relationship with someone who doesn't have any close friends?

No. I would be very leery of a man who had no close friends.

Would you date a "new guy" in town, that is a loner but also wants to meet some people?

Of course and I'd be happy to show him the ropes in his new environment.


How much importance do women put on a man's social surroundings?
Not sure what this means.
 
Old 10-31-2009, 09:36 AM
 
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If he isnt new to town, and has lived there for years and has no friends, that is RED FLAG time. {well unless he lives in a certain most unfriendly town I just posted on}

Don't trust LONERS. now shy types, independent ok....

I married someone who had very few friends, or attachements, should have served as a warning!
 
Old 10-31-2009, 10:05 AM
 
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I think a happy medium is best.

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What do women think of men that like to be on there own and do their own thing?

I like an independent guy. I hate feeling like I am that person's only source of entertainment. Too much pressure.

Would you even date or start a relationship with someone who doesn't have any close friends?
It depends on why he doesn't have any close friends. If he continually says things like "all people suck, so I avoid them." that would be a huge red flag. If it's because he moved away from his home town and hasn't made new friends yet, that's not such a big deal.

Would you date a "new guy" in town, that is a loner but also wants to meet some people?

Sure, assuming he was someone I wanted to date anyway. I wouldn't hold that against him.

How much importance do women put on a man's social surroundings?
That depends on the woman. Some place more importance on it than others. I think one can tell a lot about a person by observing how he interacts with his friends and family - traits like loyalty, honesty, tolerance of others, etc.
I don't want some party guy who is out all hours getting drunk with his friends 7 nights a week; but I also wouldn't want to be someone's only source of entertainment (see answer to the first question).
 
Old 10-31-2009, 01:24 PM
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Why would the number of friends matter to a woman as long as he had hobbies and didnt need to be around her 24/7.
 
Old 10-31-2009, 01:47 PM
 
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Why would the number of friends matter to a woman as long as he had hobbies and didnt need to be around her 24/7.
Grasshopper, you are not a woman and therefore cannot answer the questions posed. There is no need for you to hijack this thread with another of your silly questions. Good opportunity for you to start another inane thread of your own ...
 
Old 10-31-2009, 04:38 PM
 
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I kinda beg to differ on alot of the comments.

I am a loner type. I don't have alot of close friends but it's my choice. It's not like I don't get along with people. I think most people are idiots. I guess my thinking is alittle deeper than most.

I would like to enjoy things that some of the mainstream wouldn't. Like for instance, all the guys are going out on the town to do...oh whatever. We are walking down the street together and all of them are talking about really stupid stuff. Childish BS. I am admiring the designs on the ancient buildings as we walk down the street. I am looking at the stars in the sky that intrigue me. When they look back at me and I am in lala land they tend to shy away from inviting me to the "guys" night out. Which is fine with me.

Am I wrong?
 
Old 10-31-2009, 04:47 PM
 
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Am I wrong?

Yes.
 
Old 10-31-2009, 06:28 PM
 
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Default funnyman

I am very much like yourself. Most women who are attracted to me just want to try to change me and i can see thru it a mile away

unfortunately i am very much like what the other posters describe. I have lived in this area for a long time and don't have close friends. if anything they're at the job. but basically i find it impossible to change and it's not worth going out because i feel no one will accept me for what i am

i don't feel depressed about it either i just accept it

and i am a workaholic, i am a professional and i have been on my own sice the early 90's
 
Old 10-31-2009, 07:25 PM
 
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I don't think women view loners highly. it's how people in general think.

i'm a bit of a loner, but i don't think people like/respect me much. i don't know why, but I cannot control others' thoughts.
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