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The only thing I can suggest that might work is for him to buy a cruise and/or vacation to the Caribbean. Most women will work hard to lose weight to look nice in a bathing suit or new clothes.
Men and women both will fill out in the years following their early youth. Quite ususal for a woman to gain weight after having a child also. Not as easy to pay attention to your own needs when a baby is involved either.
My suggestion is that he babysit so she can go out to a dance class, it's good exercise and fun.
It's not what you say, it's how it's said.
I think it's fine to bring up the subject. Never say anything like, "that's a lot of food" - it's an insult.
If he simply starts working out and getting buff - it will only make her feel fatter and dumpy. It's not likely that she will feel able to "join in".
Instead he should suggest that they have both gained some weight express moderate concern - remember this is a problem - not a disaster! He should suggest they start working out - or going on walks - or dieting, dancing, etc. TOGETHER - as a team (NOT a contest, a team). He should point out that this would be a great chance for them to do something, just the two of them, together. He should also remind her that he loves her and that she is wonderful.
I think they already know, just are having a bit of difficulty coming to grasp the reality. Maybe they are trying to lose it and the pounds aren't coming off for whatever reason. Are they depressed? They could have hypothyroidism or there could be other medical issues.
If somebody has gained enough weight that it's noticeable to those around them, they're aware of it. You don't tell your SO that he or she is getting fat, because he or she knows - your telling them isn't really needed. Even people who don't weigh themselves know when their clothing fits differently or when their ankles or knees hurt, or when they get winded more easily.
If you care about the person, you work with them to do what they need to do to get the body (and in most cases, frame of mind) they want. You provide support and encouragement and recognize that it's ultimately up to them and not something that's going to be done for your benefit. If you don't want to do that, you don't need to be with the person and it's better for all involved if you aren't.
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