Is it reasonable to ask exes to take photos of you, you and them down after a relationship ends? (girlfriend, friend)

[StarryKnight1]

Through the grapevine, I found out an ex-girlfriend has several old photos still on Instagram from 2021. Considering she sanitized her other social media pages of all traces of me, and she’s knee-deep in a relationship with another man, is it reasonable for me to ask her to take my face down from her page? If it adds anything, I’m not the only ex still up on her page, it’s almost like a past relationships résumé…

[E-Twist]

It's not unreasonable. Don't have any expectations, but it doesn't hurt to ask .

[StarryKnight1]

Originally Posted by E-Twist

It's not unreasonable. Don't have any expectations, but it doesn't hurt to ask .

Thank you for your response.

[randomx]

l don't think so either.

By the sounds of it that ain't a circus l'd wanna be advertised in.

[usayit]

It doesn't hurt to ask and I don't think it is unreasonable.

With that said, I don't quite understand the need to 'erase' the past from people's social media. I would not ask that of any partner of mine. They are who they are because of their past.....

[Pitt Chick]

It is reasonable to ask, but accept if they chose to keep them. After all, you WERE part of their life then!

[gus2]

Originally Posted by E-Twist

It's not unreasonable. Don't have any expectations, but it doesn't hurt to ask .

Perfectly put.

[Bootsamillion]

Originally Posted by StarryKnight1

Through the grapevine, I found out an ex-girlfriend has several old photos still on Instagram from 2021. Considering she sanitized her other social media pages of all traces of me, and she’s knee-deep in a relationship with another man, is it reasonable for me to ask her to take my face down from her page? If it adds anything, I’m not the only ex still up on her page, it’s almost like a past relationships résumé…

Would you ask your daughter to throw out her scrapbook when she moved out? Of course not! Photos and momentos are simply a part of your life. There are chapters, they open, they close. But they are still chapters. Nobody has the right to ask anyone to throw out old pictures regardless of their feelings.

I have a box in my closet that's full of pictures all through my childhood and my adulthood. There were people in my life, and although I don't see them anymore or talk to them, they were a part of my life and therefore, those memories belong to ME. I will never throw any of them away, that is ridiculous.

No, leave her alone and don't ask her to remove them. Her new bf obviously doesn't have a problem with them, you certainly shouldn't.

[oregonwoodsmoke]

She is an "ex". You not longer get to control what she does or what her social media looks like. Get over it and move on.. What she does is not longer any of your business.

[Katnan]

Originally Posted by oregonwoodsmoke

She is an "ex". You not longer get to control what she does or what her social media looks like. Get over it and move on.. What she does is not longer any of your business.

This. Plus who is this "through the grapevine person" needing to stir the pot with the OP two years after the OP's relationship has ended?