how do I create excitement in my boyfriend , rather than boredom

[hatgirl007]

Glad you are happy with him but try and respect that he's an individual as well. You don't want to be that girl that finds a dove; holds and wraps it up so tight that you end up killing it. Our mates do not complete us 100% but the compliment the individuals we already are.
*On ideas. Spice it up every now and then. Find somewhere with old school video games, play pool, go go cart racing, learn how to salsa or step.

[Sunnnee]

Originally Posted by maddog1

You guys may be familiar with me from my other posts (probably most or all about my boyfriend of 6 months.) I know I am smothering him. We see eachother every night and I do believe he wants a night off here and there but cannot tell me. (He has actually mentioned it once or twice)There is nothing to talk about when we do talk on the phone. Sometimes we have things to say about the tv show or movie we're watching, but we are together so much that I think he's bored with me. I am also one of those that talk the relationship to death and he is definately sick of that. (doesn't even want me to ask if he wants the night off.) I hate that he is so lively with other people. How do I get him excited about communication with me? Seems obvious, don't communicate or see him so much. i am not bored with him, I very much enjoy his company. We have a situation like a living together arrangement, I am there every night and he does what he likes , play video games, etc. I usually read or nap when he does this. We do have the other problem I posted about (too many flirty female friends.) Will going away and giving him space really help the relationship or does that sort of thing simply have no effect? Please advise.

You already know the answer to your dilema. Give him space and you take your space. You see each other all the time and you both need "me" time. I think your scared of something or someone coming in the picture to take that closeness away. Get a hobby, join a gym, something to keep yourself busy. You are focusing way too much on "him" and not enough on you.

When a person gets too comfortable in a relationship they get bored and the excitement may or may not be gone. Don't announce what your gonna do to stay busy, just do it. Have some "me" time and get back to what you were doing before you met him.

Give him space and trust that whatever he does, he will respect your relationship. Don't let him forget the reason why he chose you to be with in the first place. You seem like bright person...think about it...Just stay busy and do things to make you happy.