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That's all wonderful, but what about when he has a 10 year old son at 60, who he can't play with because he is too old??
Or when I have to continue working 17 years after he has retired??
Or when I finally reach retirement I find myself suddenly alone as he is either in a nursing home or (god forbid) deceased??
There's always a trade-off.
Otherwise, if he were younger, he can run away when the kid's two and make you a hard-working, single mom.
If he really loves you a lot, like the OP says, then chances are higher that he'll have some integrity and will be more responsible.
If you are so bummed about the "60" situation, then you should be working on shooting a kid out this year or the next. 55 year olds can very well play with 10 year olds. My father was 52 when he died and he had so much energy when I was last together with him at 51. He had diabetes since I was born, if a man with 26-year old diabetes had that strength, then a 55-year old healthy man's gonna fare higher.
But I do get that playing with a 10 year old is different, but is certainly not a herculean task.
Assuming there aren't other problems like super-obesity and a tray full of health problems.
Or, are you watching news, a lot of horny 65 year old men are having babies
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Would you be happy with a life like that?
ME?? Never EVER, LMAO.
If you see a cougar on me, it only means it's feeding on the muscle flesh of my decaying dead body. Like on NatGeo or Animal planet.
Otherwise, if he were younger, he can run away when the kid's two and make you a hard-working, single mom.
If he really loves you a lot, like the OP says, then chances are higher that he'll have some integrity and will be more responsible.
If you are so bummed about the "60" situation, then you should be working on shooting a kid out this year or the next. 55 year olds can very well play with 10 year olds. My father was 52 when he died and he had so much energy when I was last together with him at 51. He had diabetes since I was born, if a man with 26-year old diabetes had that strength, then a 55-year old healthy man's gonna fare higher.
But I do get that playing with a 10 year old is different, but is certainly not a herculean task.
Assuming there aren't other problems like super-obesity and a tray full of health problems.
Or, are you watching news, a lot of horny 65 year old men are having babies
ME?? Never EVER, LMAO.
If you see a cougar on me, it only means it's feeding on the muscle flesh of my decaying dead body. Like on NatGeo or Animal planet.
Lol, Can't rep you but have good intentions. You are much more understanding and less of an a-hole than I, sir.
Honestly.. I'm 22 years old.. I hear these girls I work with talk about how age is just a number, and all this jazz. You should think of these things! I'm 22, and I am!
That stuff is all very romantic, but I have come to see that it is not realistic.
If your 15 year old daughter came home and told you she was in love with a 70 year old, are you saying you would be ok with that? Age is not just a number.
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I think it would be horrible, and I can understand your situation with now knowing what it will be like to be with a guy who is retired, and your still working.. That is a real eye opener
Yes it really was. Most couples retire together and enjoy their final time on this earth together. I'll be in my 40's, still young and still working, and he'll be in his 60's, sitting at home on his bum - for seventeen years before I even begin.
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If you are so bummed about the "60" situation, then you should be working on shooting a kid out this year or the next.
Now you see this is exactly what I mean - I, at 27, have to rush and shoot out a kid NOW even though I don't want nor am ready for one now, simply because he is already 44.
So I should rush my life because I am with a man who was born in 1965? He didn't rush his for anyone and I become more and more jealous of that every single day.
Ok I am sorry everyone... I am getting a little angry now... I know you're all just trying to help me. I just feel so confused and torn.
Jason you made me chuckle - thank you.
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17 years is definitely too much age difference for anything other than sex. It will get horribly awkward at some point, like you're taking care of your sick dying dad. If two years age difference sounds better to you, just send me a DM and I'll respond with some inappropriate pictures.
Now you see this is exactly what I mean - I, at 27, have to rush and shoot out a kid NOW even though I don't want nor am ready for one now, simply because he is already 44.
You can wait two years. 46 is not too bad of an age to be a Dad.
But it seems you are already coming up with a list of NO's, and no matter what piece of advice you get, it's only gonnabe a downward spiral.
This is probably old school thinking. But dads in my world advocate kids before 30, becoz 30 more years of professional life are left to save a fortune for the kids. That's pretty much what my father did. And if this plan were to work, then the push has to be there to have kids at the earliest. No kidding around.
This is just like business strategy. Empty emotions and mood swings achieve nothing. For there is only one thing that happens for sure. It stunts progress.
Given the constraints you have, it's all a matter of quick childbirth and diligent savings such that the hypothesis you present - working alone when he is retired - does not happen to be too heavy, even if it can and will happen for real. A few saved 1000s in the bank account will make a difference. Then, there are always things to do with saved money - investments
Failing to plan is planning to fail. If planning presents logistic difficulties, tell the old man and dump him. Even a not so good plan will make your future fears real. For all the headache, you can get married to a 20-something dude and start over.
He'll be fine. If he can tranquilizer gun some cougar down and carry on, he gets my standing ovation. Heck, I'd even offer some bucks for a cougar coat or something (winter's around), and they also say the claws carry good luck
17 years is definitely too much age difference for anything other than sex. It will get horribly awkward at some point, like you're taking care of your sick dying dad. If two years age difference sounds better to you, just send me a dm and i'll respond with some inappropriate pictures.
17 years is definitely too much age difference for anything other than sex. It will get horribly awkward at some point, like you're taking care of your sick dying dad. If two years age difference sounds better to you, just send me a DM and I'll respond with some inappropriate pictures.
Dude, you'd be retired when she's 58 and she'll have to work alone for two years.
It may be just the fact your priorities have shifted, it does happen and will probably happen a few more times in your life. Five years ago it seemed like a good idea, but not so much anymore.
Don't drag it out though, make it quick & clean.
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