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Bad sex is when you have to go home and redo for yourself-not worth spending the time imo. Kind of like the casino-can I just make a donation and not attend? Partners need to listen, explain and show if necessary. If one doesn't care about the others enjoyment then as the previous poster said "Next!"
Bad sex is when you have to go home and redo for yourself-not worth spending the time imo. Kind of like the casino-can I just make a donation and not attend? Partners need to listen, explain and show if necessary. If one doesn't care about the others enjoyment then as the previous poster said "Next!"
But the one you said next to would be the bad sex... right?
this post will just convince every nice guy with less experience to just not get married or simply visit escorts every once in awhile. an escort appreciates a nice guy because she can relax with him cause she knows he won't assault her or anything
i'm sure telling the hub that her previous partners were better and more experienced will make him feel just grand and make him love the idea of white picket fences and, um, "keeping up" with the joneses. in fact in this case it's "being able to keep it up compared to mr jones"
why does a 1000 dollar hooker feel oh so good?
why is a gigolo so much more fun than a fat bald hubby.
bek relationships are not created in disneyland
they are created on the long crowded freeway out of anaheim with a fat wife and screaming kids.
lol.
I don't know. For $1k, I can get at least a weekend getaway at some wine tasting tour, with a couples' massage, dinner, dessert, and over the child care cost of the weekend.
Just saying, creativity and actions creates the atmosphere to greater sexual experience.
I agree that you shouldn't get seriously involved unless you know how he / she is in bed. Some may say, "well, you can teach someone, etc.." but no, you either have it or you don't. Not everyone is great in bed. I have broken off a relationship before over this and headed off another one before things even happened. You have to be honest with yourself and with the other person.
If you are going to be in a long-term, monogamous relationship there is going to be sex and if it isn't good, all the hugs, kisses and cuddles won't make it better.
I actually am with you on this one! I feel like you should always test out the goods before buying the entire package! Sex is important in any relationship and it does matter whether or not a couple is having good sex or just sex. I vote for great sex!
There's also the switch and bait where sex was good prior to the marriage.
There emotional baggages and scars from past sexual experiences sometimes need 3rd party professional intervention. Greater sex can happen, with some time and effort. So it depends on the willingness to seek the help and the patience for progress.
Taking sex out of the equation, my wife is great in many ways. A genuinely nice person. Everyone likes her. She puts up with my idiosyncrasies. Not so great in others. Her work seems to be her passion. She defends her family more than me.
Putting sex back into the equation, there is just no passion there. Married 17 years. 2000- early 2009 of just being roommates. Back at it again, after I brought the subject up in hopes of something good. She just doesn't seem to care about it.
I am stuck with the good and the bad. I won't leave just because of bad sex. Almost had an........... well, it didn't happen. Good thing. My life would be a mess if it had. But I am still weak.
Dealing with it, albiet slowly. Hoping to bring intimacy and a desire for closeness back into the marriage.
I can totally relate. On the weak parts you admit, what is stopping you from confronting these inner demons?
Lots of books that seems to answer parts of it:
No More Mr Nice Guy (Glover)
Passionate Marriage (Schnarch)
Sheet Music (Lehman)
I would much rather have problems with quality rather than frequency, you know its the thought that counts, and maybe your SO thinks they 'er really banging in that department.
The problem is , by the time you figure out you're getting bad sex ,or you know its not going to get any better, you could be knee deep in a mortgage, kids, and a career. A divorce for sex will ruin you, your wife and kids harmony and balance, what do you do?
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Partners need to listen, explain and show if necessary. 
If one doesn't care about the others enjoyment then as the previous poster said "Next!" 
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