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I think anytime you date someone seperated there is a possiblility they will get back with the ex. I dated a guy just at the end of a bad divorced. A few months after we started dating she began calling him about one thing or another. Then one day she called me at work all in a crying emotional mess. I was concerned that she would try to hurt herself so when I got off the phone with her I called him to let him know and broke it off. He then went back to her.
I guess it can happen at any time, whether they are divorced or separated. It's just deciding whether to take the chance I suppose. In your case 2mares, you took yourself out of the equation, which freed him of having to choose. He may have just gone back long enough to get her stabalized.
I once worked with a woman whose husband cheated, so they got divorced, sold their house, and then one day she said she was considering getting back with him. I asked her what he could have done that would make what he did go away enough to get back with him. She said, "he took me to Key West." I just stared at her, I didn't even know what to say.
Last edited by floridadreamer; 11-13-2009 at 11:17 AM..
Location: Pelion, South Carolina/orig. from Cape May, NJ
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Yes, after we dated for 4 months, he went back to his ex, but 4 years later he realized the mistake he made and came back to me. We've been together almost 6 years, married for 1 1/2 years, with 2 kids.
(Now if I told you the number of times I ended up returning to my first husband (and he returned to me) every time he and I split up during our marriage, I'd be here all day....)
For this reason I would NEVER get involved with a married/separated man...there's a damn good chance they'll turn tail and go back to their ex.
I haven't had anyone leave me for an ex, but back when I was dating I've had a few boyfriends try to get back with me after we split up and he got a new girlfriend (I said no way, of course). I also know of a few guys (and girls) who continue to see their ex's behind their new girlfriend's (or boyfriend's) back.
And they broke up again, and she asked me if I was interested in starting over.
Nope.
Exactly, no one wants to be second choice.
Only way I would consider it, is if they had kids together (giving them more cause to try again). But I wouldn't expect someone to do that for me if it were the other way around. I also wouldn't leave someone unless I knew it was definitely over.
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We've been together almost 6 years, married for 1 1/2 years, with 2 kids.
