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1. Rough Treatment "The Loser" will hurt you on purpose. If he or she hits you, twists your arm, pulls your hair, kicks you, shoves you, or breaks your personal property EVEN ONCE, drop them. Male losers often begin with behaviors that move you physically or hit the wall. Female losers often slap, kick and even punch their male partners when upset.
I was raised that a man should never ever strike a woman. I will defend myself, but yeah, she could get a punch in...if that's what she wants to do.
Or we're told it's okay if a woman slaps a man's face, but if he slaps her right back, he's in the wrong again. We're supposed to be able to "take it". Heck, my wife bit me once, and gave me a black eye--and the in the latter case, the cops came to ask me questions.
I told them, "Did she have a single mark on her? No. Me, I've got a black eye--so you go figure out what's going on." Of course, she's "crazy"--so diagnosed by a physician--so it's somewhat excusable.
I'm not sure if the abuser can be a woman. Never heard of this before but I have witnessed it myself two times.
Event 1: When I was a kid, I once caught my uncle with a bloody nose. He told everyone he got into an angry brawl at a club. I know my uncle isn't that type of person that goes clubbing and never saw him drunk. Could have sworn he was at home and he doesn't drink more than two glasses so his story didn't make sense at all. I was only 8 then, didn't suspected anything until years later.
Event 2: I was now spending my summer vacation with my aunt and uncle. This is before entering my senior year of high school. Anyways as I got home after a night's hang-out with my friends, there was an argument between them. I don't know what the argument was about but it was then I saw my aunt pushing my uncle against the screen door. I never said anything to anyone as I was thinking maybe it's just a regular argument couples have.
They have been married for almost 55 years now. I'm not sure if it's still happening. If anyone were to meet them, they appear to be the perfect couple. My aunt doesn't look like the type of person who's violent. I'm now convince she was the one that gave him that bloody nose that day and he covered up for her. I'm still having a hard time imagining my aunt would do that. Not too sure if that's even possible, that it's the woman being physical abusive while the husband keeps quiet about it. My uncle never told anyone and still doesn't. I'm starting to wonder if this always happened when they were married and if it continues or has stopped. How many more are out there or is my uncle the only single case?
Between 1975 and 1985, male-against-female domestic violence decreased, while, surprisingly, women’s violence against men increased. The results of a study conducted showed that two million men were assaulted by their wife or their girlfriend while 1.8 million women suffered assaults from their husband or from their boyfriend. Domestic Violence: Women as the Abusers and Men as the Victims | Socyberty
Yes - as everyone has said - it certainly does happen.
I was also pretty ignorant of it - I once had to attend a workshop ot College where a social worker came in to tell us about spousal abuse and she covered abuse against men.
We were disbelieving because, of course, men are stronger - she explained that you don't have to be strong to pour boiling water over someone or to stab them while they are sleeping...
I, personally, think Lorrena Bobbit was the aggressor and abuser within her marriage... but maybe that's just me?
Yes - as everyone has said - it certainly does happen.
I was also pretty ignorant of it - I once had to attend a workshop ot College where a social worker came in to tell us about spousal abuse and she covered abuse against men.
We were disbelieving because, of course, men are stronger - she explained that you don't have to be strong to pour boiling water over someone or to stab them while they are sleeping...
I, personally, think Lorrena Bobbit was the aggressor and abuser within her marriage... but maybe that's just me?
Not sure what the whole story was about, I just remember my jaw dropping.
Lucky for him they found his appendage along the road side.
Probably infidelity, still not excusable. I saw years later John Bobbit went on
to star in porn films. They were both strange.
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Yes, women can be abusive, which was why the first girl i had serious feelings about and i did not continue our relationship past the time we we're seeing one another..the relationship could have been great had she been able to deal with everything she was going through..But, she chose to react, instead of respond..to what she needed to deal with..
to the poster who posted the link to "signs of dating a looser" great link!! read over the entire article..makes tremendous sense...thanks for posting it
According to this wikipedia entry, most domestic abuse is actually initiated by women, however because they receive the lions share of injuries, they are not often viewed as the aggressors.
"Surprising to some is the fact that the majority of domestic violence is reciprocal. Martin S. Fiebert examined 219 studies on intimate partner violence and concluded that "women are as physically aggressive or more aggressive than men in their relationships with their spouses or male partners".[3"
"In May, 2007, researchers with the Centers for Disease Control reported on rates of self-reported violence among intimate partners using data from a 2001 study. In the study, almost one-quarter of participants reported some violence in their relationships. Half of these involved one-sided ("non-reciprocal") attacks and half involved both assaults and counter assaults ("reciprocal violence"). Women reported committing one-sided attacks more than twice as often as men (70% versus 29%). In all cases of intimate partner violence, women were more likely to be injured than men, but 25% of men in relationships with two-sided violence reported injury compared to 20% of women reporting injury in relationships with one-sided violence. Women were more likely to be injured in non-reciprocal violence.[60]"
does the sun rise in the east, do men have heart attacks at home alot?
is it murder if they dont use a gun or knife?
is the person sleeping next to you always your friend,---- gee i dont know lets ask mr mouse about the python sleeping in his cage.
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Lol, nice observation Huck..
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