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Mygalomorph;[/i]11628174]I posted a couple of months ago- I'm a 46 yr old male and have never been on a date or had sex. Someone suggested that I need to be more "confident"- I really don't know what that means. I mean, I feel like I'm invisible.
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Anyone who can come upon the screen name "Mygalomorph" understands the meaning of the word confident, but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt.
Main Entry:
1con·fi·dence
Pronunciation: \ˈkän-fə-dən(t)s, -ˌden(t)s\
Function:
noun
Date: 14th century
1 a : a feeling or consciousness of one's powers or of reliance on one's circumstances <had perfect confidence in her ability to succeed> <met the risk with brash confidence>
b : faith or belief that one will act in a right, proper, or effective way <have confidence in a leader>
2 : the quality or state of being certain
: certitude <they had every confidence of success>
3 a : a relation of trust or intimacy <took his friend into his confidence>
b : reliance on another's discretion <their story was told in strictest confidence>
c : support especially in a legislative body <vote of confidence>
4 : a communication made in confidence
: secret <accused him of betraying a confidence>
synonyms confidence,
assurance,
self-possession,
aplomb mean a state of mind or a manner marked by easy coolness and freedom from uncertainty, diffidence, or embarrassment.
confidence stresses faith in oneself and one's powers without any suggestion of conceit or arrogance <the
confidence that comes from long experience>.
assurance carries a stronger implication of certainty and may suggest arrogance or lack of objectivity in assessing one's own powers <handled the cross-examination with complete
assurance>.
self-possession implies an ease or coolness under stress that reflects perfect self-control and command of one's powers <answered the insolent question with complete
self-possession>.
aplomb implies a manifest self-possession in trying or challenging situations <handled the reporters with great
aplomb>.