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I once worked with this woman that was morbidly obese. I mean, I hate to be mean, but she was very very large, about my height 5'2'' and AT LEAST 300 lbs (in fact, I think she once told me she was 330). BUT she dressed cute for her size, and she presented herself nicely. Furthermore, she was OK with her size. Granted, I always felt that she should be concerned for health issues...but she didn't seem to care. Anyhow, she was funny as hell, and confident with herself.
...you know what? Guys LOVED her! Granted, the guy had to be OK with being with a large lady...but really, the amount of dates and a$$ she got was amazing! She dated nice guys, too...many were large like her, but still, she definitely wasn't going out with "scum" or anything.
Anyhow, this might seem silly...but I thought sharing this anecdote would perhaps help some of you believe that skinny or "traditionally beautiful" isn't always necessary.
If I were a woman with low self esteem, I would probably listen to this girl the most. She seems to have her own mind/thinking process, and is observant of things outside of what the media tells her to focus on.
Ok, I know a lot of women, they are not super models, but they're very attractive and sexy. They have nice bodies (in my opinion).
But they hate their bodies...
What's up with that?
The more I know women, the more I think that the majority of women hate their bodies.
Everything...
facial features
breasts
tummy
thigh/legs
the garden (so many women find it ugly... that's totally stupid, especially when so many guys just think it's fantastic)
what is it?
and when will women become more intelligent about analyzing their body?
or we, as men, will have to suffer, because the woman is immature in her appreciation of her feminin phsyical features, we have to put up with her insecurity, her low self-esteem...
what's the deal?
my girlfriend has an awesome body, she looks great in a bikini and jean shorts, her breasts are awesome, the garden is beautiful, and yet all she can do is COMPLAIN!
tummy too fat, thighs too fat, knees look strange, arms are flabby, breasts average, etc...
she works out almost everyday! the woman has a body to die for...
the whole thing is totally ridiculous.
women need to get it together in their brains...
they can be really messed up
read the majority of the mens responses on here.... not hard to figure out
I know it's hard ignoring men's comments, God knows I have such a hard time with that, but now I realize self esteem has the word "self" there for a reason...
I know it's hard ignoring men's comments, God knows I have such a hard time with that, but now I realize self esteem has the word "self" there for a reason...
Very interesting comment.
I'd like to tell you that whatever guys think is their problem, not yours.
And theoretically, this is true.
However, a politician has to care about what people think in order to get votes.
I care about what my boss thinks, because he will ultimately decide my pay raise.
I care about what my girlfriend thinks. I love her.
But strangers on this thread?
You can listen and be open to advice/comments, but you are the boss of your life.
Besides guys have tons of psychological baggage too - most likely they evaluate things based on their own personal perception, which is often flawed at its base (and all too often influenced by a far from perfect society).
I choose to concentrate on myself being mentally, emotionally and physically healthy.
If I depended on other people for my self-esteem, I would be often disappointed.
As long as I am happy with who I am, it really doesn't matter what anyone thinks.
The trick is to be honest with myself and face up to my imperfections, try to control what is realistic, and not run away from my problems.
And always remember...
You are the President and CEO of your own life.
Thanks to everyone who has made this such an interesting thread.
A lot of women my age (college age), though attractive, sometimes extremely attractive, think they're too fat, which I would class as "hating their bodies". I can't think of why a girl with a BMI of 24 or 23 would complain of wanting to be "skinnier", except for media pressure and perhaps re-affirmation that she's NOT fat.
After all, most males do NOT want to date and marry a wire-thin supermodel.
A lot of women my age (college age), though attractive, sometimes extremely attractive, think they're too fat, which I would class as "hating their bodies". I can't think of why a girl with a BMI of 24 or 23 would complain of wanting to be "skinnier", except for media pressure and perhaps re-affirmation that she's NOT fat.
Heck, mine is a little under 22 and I think need to lose weight. On one hand I know its not true, but on the other I can't help it. It's weird.
I think allot of it is women fishing for compliments..
Another reason is women want to be universally attractive to everyone plus womens competitive nature to look better then other women..
You cant tell me a pretty good looking or cute women who gets hit on allot doesnt know shes somewhat attractive and thinks shes ugly but wants to be seen as attractive to everyone or prettier then most..
Dont blame men for the society..Sex sells more then ever so men in 6 pick abs are all over commercials so why dont you see as many men complain that theyre not mr six pack as women do not looking like a model?
Why do women feel the need of validation for society or the status quo more then men?
If you get compliments and have had enough men and women tell you youre attrtacive which most decent women looking get WHY isnt that enough?
Does everyone have to be attracted to you?
Dont get me wrong theyres womens with real self esteem issues but theyres also tons of women hiding behind that who are really self absorbed narcisists
I think allot of it is women fishing for compliments..
Another reason is women want to be universally attractive to everyone plus womens competitive nature to look better then other women..
You cant tell me a pretty good looking or cute women who gets hit on allot doesnt know shes somewhat attractive and thinks shes ugly but wants to be seen as attractive to everyone or prettier then most..
Dont blame men for the society..Sex sells more then ever so men in 6 pick abs are all over commercials so why dont you see as many men complain that theyre not mr six pack as women do not looking like a model?
Why do women feel the need of validation for society or the status quo more then men?
If you get compliments and have had enough men and women tell you youre attrtacive which most decent women looking get WHY isnt that enough?
Does everyone have to be attracted to you?
Dont get me wrong theyres womens with real self esteem issues but theyres also tons of women hiding behind that who are really self absorbed narcisists
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