I also read over this one..and believe that there is a valid point to the researcher's ideas... I can totally see how a woman would be turned off by a man who is overly sensitive and just plain lacks that balance between being able to feel..be expressive in feeling yet not lacking in what it means to be male...The independent thinking, makes his own decisions etc masculine aspects..
While i too would consider myself "sensitive"..i know that i am not "overly" sensitive... and that is because i am not controlled by the more emotional side of my personality... and no, im definitely not the passive type...nor am i the type to randomly ignite over a situation...
being balanced means that i can:
Express my feelings over the loss of a loved one, friend, my dog...the birth of my children, when i have them...But not be an emotional drama when some girl and i break up..or when something small challenges me..
with courage and clarity, i can overcome every storm which comes my way..let alone face, appreciate, and surely enjoy the thrill that i get when ever i have chased them..or spent many nights at 3 am in a dark field photographing lightning...There is no fear..because i understand the nature of the beast...
I can enjoy the company of both my nieces and nephews..and still be the uncle they will look up to..
I can see the beauty of the orchids i raise..yet still see the exotic beauty of a woman i see in them...
Are not afraid of expressing myself through things such as art or writing poetry..yet in a masculine way...
I can love to the deepest..Physically and mentally..and enjoy the high i feel emotionally..yet still be the man in the situation
Feel compassion for tragic things..yet do something like volunteering w/the red cross..helping build houses, build community gardens... change laws..etc basically make use of my hands..and my protector masculine side...
Teach people things...be romantic, and not fear the feminine side of my sexuality which beings the sensitive, take your time and enjoy her approach to the bedroom...yet still be "the " man she craves...
When i was younger, i struggled with this topic...and i won't hide that, at times, i probably was a little overly sensitive..and it does repel women...but, with time, i was able to balance it and i know, when the right woman enters my life, while i still will have my faults(stubborn as a mule w/a broken leg), she will surely love the man that i am and appreciate the sensitivity which lies within him
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