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Try the new clubs and see how they go. I found one new one to try, [political] but I missed this months meeting and may have to wait til winter is over cause of my health, unless December is warmer.
One thing when you get depressed it can be bad, people do shrink away. I am under the toll of hiding depression from people. Some friends you are close enough to, that youve known for years and years can handle it, others cannot and new people they will run for the hills and who can blame them?
a few, like the rotary club and a local political group.
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Try the new clubs and see how they go. I found one new one to try, [political] but I missed this months meeting and may have to wait til winter is over cause of my health, unless December is warmer.
One thing when you get depressed it can be bad, people do shrink away. I am under the toll of hiding depression from people. Some friends you are close enough to, that youve known for years and years can handle it, others cannot and new people they will run for the hills and who can blame them?
That sounds great, I know you don't like to hear all of our replies, but you did ask. I think everyone here has your best interest at heart.
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i don't since it is not attuned to my personality, as i said. I am not a humble/spiritual person, and i think if mental health professionals put forward this as the ultimate/optimum path to mental health, they are only putting forward their own personal beliefs as facts.
My own belief on mental health is coping skills and environment. The ability to cope with setbacks and negative experiences is key, as well as the environment one is in. If one's environment is not conducive, then it can lead to poor mental health.
I feel sad and resentful a lot. does it make me a loser?
I read thorough the post and my heart goes out to you in regards to the situation that occurred. Though I have never been abused, I know people close to me that were. Also, I grew up without a pops so I know (to a degree) what it's like feel MAJOR resentment.
Really, you don't need anybody to validate your feelings, so as long as you don't hurt others (or yourself!!) you need to just feel what you are feeling and figure out what you are going to do with those feelings. You know, when you talk to people MOST can't understand especially if they have never been through what you have. So that's why they tell you, "oh, just get over it" or "are you still dealing with this?" F^^ em!! The fact that you were abused is a serious life long issue because a part of you has been violated and taken away depending on the degree of the violation.
Anyhow, TO GAIN SOME CONTROL you can't go wrong with turning a negative into a positive!! So, in other words, use the bad experience, and the bad people who let you down, as motivation to do something positive in YOUR life. Anything less (IMO) is living a life not worth living. You know bad things happen to everybody but you make it worse on yourself when you make bad decisions that make your own life WORSE!!
So for me, I think of how I want to be 100,000,000,000 times better then the man that sired me. All aspects!!! Strength, courage, intelligence, maturity, reliability, ect.. ...
Not sure what you want out of your life but you could use all that energy to become a successful art painter all the way to a prominent aerospace engineer. Really, that's the way I would go about it.
I feel sad and resentful a lot. does it make me a loser?
Of course this does not make you a loser. It makes you a person with FEELINGS. What causes you to be so sad and resentful? Identifying that might be a first step in turning things around.
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Though I have never been abused, I know people close to me that were. Also, I grew up without a pops so I know (to a degree) what it's like feel MAJOR resentment.
