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Abit of an awkward situation. Lets just say a health store I go to once or twice a month, one of the male staff there is being overly friendly to me.
He is clearly gay. At this point have said nothing as its too awkward.
What would you say to stop his subtle advances?
I would handle it exactly the same way I'd handle it if a woman I wasn't interested in was being flirty with me. I'd be polite, but not lead him/her along. If his "advances" become less subtle or he asks you directly, I would simply say I'm not interested. But if it's just harmless flirting I don't see any problem with it really, nor do I see any need to declare your lack of interest unless pressed to. You might just end up making a bit of an ass of yourself, y'know? There's a chance the guy doesn't actually have an interest in you and would relish the opportunity to tell you so if you go rejecting him before he makes any kind of declaration.
My feeling is that if someone finds you attractive it's a pretty big compliment, even if the attraction isn't mutual. So I'd be nice, and feel better about myself in the long run.
So I guess my advice is to handle it the same way you'd handle it if a woman you weren't interested in was making "subtle advances" -- assuming of course that you wouldn't go out of your way to hurt the feelings of a woman just because you didn't share her attraction.
Maybe I am missing the big deal here, but, it's not like he is going to rip your clothes off and pounce on you in the middle of the store, Dave. Chill out, talk about a GF ["Oh, cool, I've seen this stuff, my GF uses it..."] - the worst that can happen is that you get dibbs on a special promotion or get a discount or two somewhere along the line.
Abit of an awkward situation. Lets just say a health store I go to once or twice a month, one of the male staff there is being overly friendly to me.
He is clearly gay. At this point have said nothing as its too awkward.
What would you say to stop his subtle advances?
It would depend on what theirr motivations are for being overly friendly.
It would depend on what theirr motivations are for being overly friendly.
Why do people have to have "motivations" all of the time? Can't anyone just have a little crush or an attraction anymore? Women go through the same things with other women sales associates. . cripes. I just walk away smiling because I know it's because she must like my personality, face, boo-buh's, butt or something. Big whoop. It's a harmless attraction. I'm confident and secure in my sexuality. Those who question this sort of stuff should be as well. If I started wondering about other womens attractions to me, I would seriously wonder if they tapped into something within ME.
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