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I used to allow myself to be psychologically abused. Not anymore. I mean that if it feels wrong, I stop doing it. If a person is a jackass to me, I stop dealing with them. Full stop. 20 years ago, I would have put up with crumbs from certain people.
Now it's pity and contempt.
There is something to be said about being older and wiser.
PS my husband has lost most of his British accent after almost 17 years here.
The accent is simply a by-product reminder of a relationship gone bad. I hope you can work everything out and, if the relationship isn't salvageable, then reach a divorce settlement amenable to both of you. Good luck!
Yes, absolutely. There may come a time when I don't feel that way, but currently I don't even find it appealing. There isn't any way to salvage the marriage though, I think it should have ended long ago. The kids are so important in face I've considered moving closer to their dad so he can co-parent more, but his job situation isn't stable enough to warrant that. Also, there's the decision as to whether I think I could be happy wherever that is, I am only 35 and feel a stable home is just as important. We are both pretty agreeable when it comes to the kids, although an arrangement of visitation isn't a guarantee he will follow it.
Things that used to attract me but are now a major turn-off.
Ive been thinking about this since this thread was started. Cant really come up with anything that used to attract me in a woman, but now is a turnoff.
Oh, I know, Beer Drinkers. I used to think it was kinda sexy when a woman would drink beer. The good beer, not the domestic stuff you'd find in cans. Im talking a woman who knew her Newcastle, Bass, Czech beers, etc. Now, beer drinking women are kind of a turnoff to me. I prefer a woman who knows her cabernets.
Thats about it. Never had someone, or been involved with anyone who so eff'ed me up mentally so as to find what was once an attractive quality in them now become a "major turn-off".
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Long hair on guys. Loved it when I was a teen, but on guys my age (40), ick.
Also liked the bad-boy, hard-drinking, wild, crazy, unpredictable types...was married to someone like that for 12 years and got it out of my system. Now I prefer a stable, non-drinking, reliable, family-man type.
For me it's an English accent. My ex is English and now I don't even want to hear it, because it just makes my skin crawl to think about being with someone like that again.
Oh, yeah, I love me a hottie with an English accent.. blond hair, fair skin, and a voice that rings like the angels.. And when she's got that mischievous gleam in her eye.. hell yeah..
er.. sorry 'bout that. I got a little carried away there.
Ya know, there's a lot of things that I used to find attractive but don't anymore.. I think it comes with growing wiser, and learning that a lot of superficial things really don't matter.
If a chick was hot, I was there.. now it doesn't matter so much. It's personality now, but back then all I cared about were looks. It's funny how time changes things..
Sense of humor turns me on more now than ever before! I LOVE funny people and someone that can make me smile and laugh will win with me everytime. In the past I was more consumed on looks.
There was a time when I enjoyed a nice mixed drink with gin, but no more!!! YIKES! One can have too much of a good thing!
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