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Maybe you should try telling him about a situation your in right now (even though your not but flip the situation into your own) explain that you just met this guy who is from a small town bla bla bla but your not sure if its you hes interested in or your money. Maybe by letting him point out that its a bad idea for you, you can then point out that you feel the same way about his situation. Its pretty twisted to do that, but some people need to see the situation under a different light. Some would say I'm crazy for recommending this but you dont' want to get in his face and then have him want to be with the woman just to prove you wrong. good luck with that!
Well, I can't really do that because I'm his sister and I'm married and he knows my situation. LOL But good try!
This is always a difficult subject to approach with family members. Many relationships/marriages have taken place against relatives wishes so I don't know how much your advice will be heeded. He sounds like a smart guy and hopefully this woman's abrupt presumptiveness about marriage will be seen for what it is.
I would be there to offer advice, if asked. Otherwise, you could be setting yourself up for a fight. Best of luck!
Well first and foremost, I think it's very sweet that you care so much about his well-being. You obviously think very highly of him and he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner!
I would be concerned that based on his past history, he is going to dive into something just for the sake of being in a relationship. That's not good. Now I can see the red flags going up with the marriage comment so soon into the dating but in his defense...do you know if they've talked about marriage? It's not completely out of the realm for two people to fall madly in love very quickly. Based on his history, and her apparent need to get out of the small town, they may have already discussed it.
That being said, it sounds like it would be a good idea to have a talk with him. Don't jump into the whole marriage comment thing right away; just ask him how the dating is going with this girl and move into your concerns about things moving too fast. You don't want to alienate him by coming off like you know what's better for him than he does. I would also be careful if you do mention that marriage comment because he could get angry that your parents are "gossiping" about him. Let him know that you care and just want what's best for him, then cross your fingers and hope for the best.
Was it a dating site where he met her? If so, check to see if she's still out there. Hire someone, with a "background" better than your brother, to show interest in her. If she bites, show everything to him.
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