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Most on going sexual affairs are just a symptom of something else going on deeper on an emotional level in the relationship or marriage. Typically, (not always) it has nothing to do with sex but the lack of an emotional connection and closeness with another person unrelated to sex.
Most on going sexual affairs are just a symptom of something else going on deeper on an emotional level in the relationship or marriage. Typically, (not always) it has nothing to do with sex but the lack of an emotional connection and closeness with another person unrelated to sex.
I can agree with this. It fits with my experience well. At the early college days, I was unaware of what a relationship (for me) needed to be.
Now that I have been married for close to 10 years, it all makes sense. My husband is 100% to me, he really does complete me, both emotionally and physically. If he wanted to have a girl friend to hang out with, it would signal something is lacking in our relationship.
And before you flame, yes I do expect to be everything to this one man. As does he expect me to be his everything as well. After 10 years he doesn't feel isolated or smothered, so again...to each their own.
the key here, for us anyways, is that we're happy and secure in ourselves first, before we can expect to be happy and secure with each other.
I can agree with this. It fits with my experience well. At the early college days, I was unaware of what a relationship (for me) needed to be.
Now that I have been married for close to 10 years, it all makes sense. My husband is 100% to me, he really does complete me, both emotionally and physically. If he wanted to have a girl friend to hang out with, it would signal something is lacking in our relationship.
And before you flame, yes I do expect to be everything to this one man. As does he expect me to be his everything as well. After 10 years he doesn't feel isolated or smothered, so again...to each their own.
the key here, for us anyways, is that we're happy and secure in ourselves first, before we can expect to be happy and secure with each other.
Good.
That is how all marriages and relationships should be.
Too bad we live in a reality that is resultant from uncontrolled , warlike thought.
I would wonder if you are having all of these "emotions" with sombody else than why are you with me?
Why not just be with her and set me free?
The emotions are the best part!
Would you want your wife to have all of her emotions going to somebody else?
You work all day, do everything for her and she is all emotional about the guy next door..
I think the term became more popular once we had easier ways of communicating with others, while being able to keep those communications hidden from our SO. For ex, when I was a kid, there were only corded land lines, so if either of my parents had wanted to talk to someone without the other's knowledge, it would've been difficult.
Now, with IM, texting, FB, emails.....it's ridiculously easy to have conversations with people from anywhere in the world, without your SO knowing.
Anything that you would say to another, that you wouldn't want your SO other to here, is a form of cheating. If you find yourself getting emotionally involved with someone, from all your chats etc, you are having an emotional affair.
I don't see why you object to the term. Seems pretty obvious to me why it's used now.
I would wonder if you are having all of these "emotions" with sombody else than why are you with me?
Why not just be with her and set me free?
The emotions are the best part!
Would you want your wife to have all of her emotions going to somebody else?
You work all day, do everything for her and she is all emotional about the guy next door..
And things like this ruin it for the decent ones of both genders.
That sentiment of someone being 100% everything to me, or worse yet me being 100% everything to them is scary. What happens when that person is not around? Do you sink into depression? Do you stop living? My wife is the biggest part of my life, but she is not my life. Her happiness and well being is my top priority, but I do have friends I talk to and hang out with outside of her.
My wife actually was 100% dependent on me when we first got together, voluntarily withdrawing herself from her friends I had to encourage her to go out and do things without me. With my line of work can keep me away from home. I've been gone for as long as 7 months. I've been married for 7.5 years. My wife does have males among her friends, and i have females among mine.
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Originally Posted by Katlakat
I can agree with this. It fits with my experience well. At the early college days, I was unaware of what a relationship (for me) needed to be.
Now that I have been married for close to 10 years, it all makes sense. My husband is 100% to me, he really does complete me, both emotionally and physically. If he wanted to have a girl friend to hang out with, it would signal something is lacking in our relationship.
And before you flame, yes I do expect to be everything to this one man. As does he expect me to be his everything as well. After 10 years he doesn't feel isolated or smothered, so again...to each their own.
the key here, for us anyways, is that we're happy and secure in ourselves first, before we can expect to be happy and secure with each other.
If I talk to friends about things, I can still talk to my partner too. It's not like I'm emotionally drained because I shared some feelings with other people. Having connections with others doesn't have to diminish your emotional relationship with your SO.
If I talk to friends about things, I can still talk to my partner too. It's not like I'm emotionally drained because I shared some feelings with other people. Having connections with others doesn't have to diminish your emotional relationship with your SO.
Having friends of the opposite sex is not the same thing as an emotional affair, though.
Most on going sexual affairs are just a symptom of something else going on deeper on an emotional level in the relationship or marriage. Typically, (not always) it has nothing to do with sex but the lack of an emotional connection and closeness with another person unrelated to sex.
I agree with this 100%.
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