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If he wants to live with his mother being 33 yrs old, than that's his business, his choice. But never having worked, expecting mummy to pay the bills, what a loser.
His brother does not have a mental disability of any kind. He is smart as a wit, and strong as an ox! He is a bit backward, but that is expected, under the circumstances.
His Mom came here for Thanksgiving dinner, and his sister said," Where is (the brother?") She said," Oh, now...you know that he won`t go anywhere."
I don't know you're brothers situation but think about what you said..."he is a bit backward..". You assume it's because he is living with mom instead of thinking maybe that's WHY he is living with mom. Obviously something is going on that you aren't seeing since he IS LIVING WITH MOM and see's nothing wrong with it. Maybe he does have a social problem (ie: "backward") or maybe he is just a lazy bum...either way it's his issue, and we ALL have them. But as long as he and mom like the set up there is no harm being done and it might even be for the best for the two of them.
I don't know you're brothers situation but think about what you said..."he is a bit backward..". You assume it's because he is living with mom instead of thinking maybe that's WHY he is living with mom. Obviously something is going on that you aren't seeing since he IS LIVING WITH MOM and see's nothing wrong with it. Maybe he does have a social problem (ie: "backward") or maybe he is just a lazy bum...either way it's his issue, and we ALL have them. But as long as he and mom like the set up there is no harm being done and it might even be for the best for the two of them.
This is true. I guess he doesn`t mind not having any friends or any sort of social life. I would think he would just get bored, but maybe not.
Thanks all! I have received some great thoughts on this.
Because someone doesn't live the lifestyle that you chose for them they need to be blamed?
There are a lot of different ways to spend your time while on this planet. If you find a way that works for you then go for it.
Because treating someone that way is very bad for them.
Able bodied, no work experience.....unless there is a trust fund or something that person is going to be in a world of trouble when his support his cut off for whatever reason.
Employers won't employ someone with that big of a unemployment gap, no previous experience and nothing productive to show for that time period.
My room mate's boyfriend got into a motorcycle wreck when he was 18. Gets a monthly check and hasn't worked since that point in time. Still lives at home with his mom.
My roommate doesn't have enough income to have a place of her own, without having someone's financial help. If she died tomorrow, I could still afford the bills here without her input.
Do you think he can't find a job due to the economy?
I don't know what it's like where you live, but there are a good number of people here who have been unemployed for years.
What level of education does he have? Did he at least graduate from high school?
It's tough to find a job, any job right now.
There are some who are happy enough to remain unemployed and live with mom indefinitely. They aren't going to make any big effort to find work because it's very easy to just fall back on the parent and live that way.
Others are more aggressive and will be employed even if that requires moving away from the parents. It's always been that way.
I have to wonder about this one.
Do we blame the kid, or the parents?
My husbands 33 yr. old brother, has never had a job, and still lives at home with "Mama."
She has mentioned before, that she needs him there, to help take care of her, since her husband passed away several years ago.
Who do we blame for this one, since he is old enough to know better, but then again, so is Dear ol` Mom.
I think it's both. There are still some parents around who don't give their kids everything and help their kids learn independence. There are 15 and 16 year old kids out working so it's kind of hard to imagine a 33 year old never working.
There are mothers who try to cling to their kids, who would prefer they never leave home but the kids still pack up and leave the nest at around 18-22 years of age so you can't say it's only the parents. I've even seen that in the children of immigrants whose parents were angry that the children grew up and left home - but that's what they did anyhow.
It's not just the kids though because other parents make sure the kids are able to grow up and be independent, make it on their own. Some parents love their kids too much to cripple them and realize that in the normal order, their kids will outlive them and need to make it on their own.
my uncle lived with his mom until he become 36year old and just then found women and marryed and he lives with her now.And as i know in Italy it's normal to live with parents until 30-40.
I'm afraid that the same think will not happen to me cuz i'm very scared of the future...and have never had a real girlfriend,...i'm right now 19 years old.
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