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Old 12-05-2009, 06:40 PM
 
Location: Houston/Heights
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Man, I best be asking the Boss for a raise.
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Old 12-05-2009, 08:11 PM
 
Location: CasaMo
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F. Exciting

Certainly a man should try hard to keep a woman entertained but it is always amazing how often bad boys don’t even have to try, let alone work at it. Far too many are entranced by the bad boy’s ability to drift from one entertaining scrape to another. Many think that it is a mental disease that causes so many women to waste their youth on these losers. Others think that it’s just a way of getting even with their parents. Whatever it is, in a properly functioning society, there would be real consequences for making these choices. Today, there seldom are any that occur early enough to dissuade them.
Like many things in life, the consequences come after the fact. There's talk on the thread about "nice guys".... They may be, but after the years of foolish behavior (i.e. hooking up with losers) and the baggage created (pregancies, debt, no education, job skills, etc.), don't expect much sympathy from the nice guys.
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Old 12-05-2009, 08:59 PM
 
Location: Pa
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"Humor and Smarts" sounds like quite the arrogant law firm.
Hey some miracle I find a lawyer...I would faint. lol
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Old 12-06-2009, 03:13 AM
 
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American women are superficial. Here are the problems. Get off the couch, stop watching Oprah and soap operas, reading Cosmo, US and People magazine. The majority are living in fantasy, and Brad Pitt is not knocking at your door anytime soon. I work with RNs in their mid 30s, still single, who can't figure it out. I tell them, you are being unrealistic thanks to all of these BS magazines and TV programs. If you are not married by 34-35, then, the odds are against you. At 40, good luck. Of course, Demi Moore is a rarity. Anyway, I agree with a lot of your statements. Women are not attracted to nice guys, unless, you want to be treated like another girlfriend. Be confident and get off the nice guy train. I don't care what they say. There is a term called womanese; there wants are opposite to what they actually say. No, nice guys don't score with most women. Myself, I am one of those white, American good looking healthcare professionals who happens to be divorced. I have been single for 12 years with 2 intermediate relationships. I don't use long term for a reason. Do I date nurses? HELL NO!!! The majority have issues that you could not imagine. With all my travels, the best women are Latinas, Brazilians and Scandinavians; they win hands down. These women are beautiful, value the way they look, exercise, are very real and know to treat a man both in and out of the bedroom. Most American chicks are superficial, looking for a money train and someone to support them. Get divorced and you will see. For you attractive women out there, this will only get you so far. How do I know? I used to be married to one. Physically, she was very attractive but very superficial. Would I ever marry another American woman-- UNLIKELY. I don't even want to date them. Later!!!!!!!!

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Old 12-06-2009, 03:15 AM
 
Location: southern california
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this post will generate lists. the lists we all know which never predict behavior.
what do women think they would find attractive is what they heard.
so they give you what they think,
but they act on feelings-- not on what they think.
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Old 12-06-2009, 04:48 AM
 
Location: Texas
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American women are superficial. Here are the problems. Get off the couch, stop watching Oprah and soap operas, reading Cosmo, US and People magazine. The majority are living in fantasy, and Brad Pitt is not knocking at your door anytime soon. I work with RNs in their mid 30s, still single, who can't figure it out. I tell them, you are being unrealistic thanks to all of these BS magazines and TV programs. If you are not married by 34-35, then, the odds are against you. At 40, good luck. Of course, Demi Moore is a rarity. Anyway, I agree with a lot of your statements. Women are not attracted to nice guys, unless, you want to be treated like another girlfriend. Be confident and get off the nice guy train. I don't care what they say. There is a term called womanese; there wants are opposite to what they actually say. No, nice guys don't score with most women. Myself, I am one of those white, American good looking healthcare professionals who happens to be divorced. I have been single for 12 years with 2 intermediate relationships. I don't use long term for a reason. Do I date nurses? HELL NO!!! The majority have issues that you could not imagine. With all my travels, the best women are Latinas, Brazilians and Scandinavians; they win hands down. These women are beautiful, value the way they look, exercise, are very real and know to treat a man both in and out of the bedroom. Most American chicks are superficial, looking for a money train and someone to support them. Get divorced and you will see. For you attractive women out there, this will only get you so far. How do I know? I used to be married to one. Physically, she was very attractive but very superficial. Would I ever marry another American woman-- UNLIKELY. I don't even want to date them. Later!!!!!!!!

That reminds me of a John Lovett line from Saturday Night Live. He posed with his shirt off (and let's face it...John ain't no romeo) and said this:

"Ladies! As you get older, you WILL lower your standards!"
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Old 12-06-2009, 05:35 AM
 
Location: Sunset Mountain
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Yeah, but what is the difference between confidence and arrogance in a female perspective? I have a lot of confidence in my abilities, as it's part of my job. However, I don't go around all over the place laying the smack down on every women I meet in the day. Many husbands, boyfriends and SO's would not like that!lol.... The way I look at it is, this woman has probably been hit on 10 or more times today by the "Don Juans". No wonder the ladies "Don Juan" anything to do with ya!lol...... At least try to lay off them a little. This is coming from a male perspective that there is a lot of men out there who are full of themselves. So you wear Tommy HILFIGER jeans and I wear Levi's. Big whoop, wanna fight about it?lol... Perhaps some grease would look good on those "Mr. Fancy Pants"?lol... Help me out here girls! Rugged
Excellent question! My answer would be, a confident man approaching me will display that if he is rejected in his efforts, it is not the end of his world. He is secure and happy just the way he is, and wanted to know if I would be interested in joining his world at this moment in time. For me, the attraction is the lack of dominance and the offer to be with him on some even keel. That relaxes me and places me in a comfort zone right away.

Casual, confident, and relaxed without silly innuendos or stereotypical come-ons is a huge attraction. I love the scene in Hitch when Wil Smith approaches his object at the bar and walks away with just her name and a smile. Her non verbals say how he got her attention, after-all.
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Old 12-06-2009, 08:34 AM
 
Location: Whoville....
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The average guy or the engineer isnt competing for women with a good looking doctor..

Im sure every women out there would prefer the good looking doctor but he has the pick of who he wants so most women out there arent capable of getting the good looking doctor..
Actually, no. Some of us wouldn't want the lifestyle of a doctor's wife. Doctors don't work regular hours. In fact, during their residencies and internships they work hellish hours. Even when done, they're on call. There's a reason the norm is for the wife of a doctor to be a stay at home mom. She can't count on her husband to be there to help.

Now, if I fell in love with a doctor, I'd put up with the lifestyle but I sure wouldn't go after it. I much prefer the lifestyle I have with my IT specialist husband. Granted he does get the, occaisional, "The database is down" panicked call at 8:00 PM but he's not out delivering babies at 3:00 AM.

If I could choose my husband's career, it would be mechanic. Mechanics have a lot of job satisfaction, they make good money, they work regular hours and they leave work at work.

As to the question in the thread:

NOT conceited
Faithful
Honest
Hard working
Intelligent
Educated
Confident
Ambitious
Dependable
Wants to be a partner not my boss

These are difficult for me to rank but conceit is an immediate dismissal, so are lack of intelligence are unfaithfulness. I also could not stand to have a man around who thought he could run my life. Education is a preference but intelligence a must. Ambition is nice but optional (assuming he's found something he loves to do and simply wants to keep doing it vs. moving up.) but being willing to work hard a requirement (not that he has to work hard, just be willing to if the need arises).


What attracts me to a man I've never met:

He dresses well
The way he carries himself
He talks with confidence

A guy in dirty (particularly stinky) grubs, who slouches and talks like a hick isn't going to get my attention long enough to find out if he has any of the qualifications on my list.
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