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I had the pleasure of discussing women with a kid in our neighborhood. Good kid, in his teens, but his parents are, IMO, quite backwards. That's another story for another time.
He said his father told him that he should only treat women well half the time because when you're good to them all the time, they will leave you for someone else.
I wanted to be sure he didn't get the wrong message. I asked him if, perhaps, his father meant that you can't be too nice because nice guys tend to be taken advantage of. Nope. The instructions were to purposely mistreat women sometimes to keep them on their toes; to do it intentionally.
Thankfully, and like I said, he is a good kid. He said he would never do that. He wouldn't want to keep a woman by breaking her down. Thank goodness. What was this man thinking and why was he allowed to reproduce?
I had the pleasure of discussing women with a kid in our neighborhood. Good kid, in his teens, but his parents are, IMO, quite backwards. That's another story for another time.
He said his father told him that he should only treat women well half the time because when you're good to them all the time, they will leave you for someone else.
I wanted to be sure he didn't get the wrong message. I asked him if, perhaps, his father meant that you can't be too nice because nice guys tend to be taken advantage of. Nope. The instructions were to purposely mistreat women sometimes to keep them on their toes; to do it intentionally.
Thankfully, and like I said, he is a good kid. He said he would never do that. He wouldn't want to keep a woman by breaking her down. Thank goodness. What was this man thinking and why was he allowed to reproduce?
Thoughts?
That's not a man's opinion - that's a BOY's opinion
The kid is obviously getting bad advice, but I think that I understand what the dad was probably trying to say. People need contrast in order to appreciate what they have.
The kid is obviously getting bad advice, but I think that I understand what the dad was probably trying to say. People need contrast in order to appreciate what they have.
I dont think that can be applied to relationships. If your being treated like crap half the time it would make one appreciate the other half of the time and realize with the right person you could be treated well 100% of the time. So that plan could also make you realize what you dont have.
I believe that he was told that....
My husband had a friend that firmly believed that if you treat a woman nice and respectful all the time then she'll expect it all the time. He felt he had to "crap" on her once in awhile just to keep her on her toes.
And he wonders why at age 53 he's never been married and never able to hang onto some really great women.
Is it possible to treat someone "well" every moment of your life? The idea seems a little ridiculous to me.
And what if the other person becomes petulant and demanding? Do you stay the course, continue this compliance? Surely at some point a person must put their foot down. Obviously that's not to say it should be done arbitrarily.
I dont think that can be applied to relationships. If your being treated like crap half the time it would make one appreciate the other half of the time and realize with the right person you could be treated well 100% of the time. So that plan could also make you realize what you dont have.
Exactly, there is always someone out there willing to give what another man (or woman) won't.
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Originally Posted by Granny Sue
I believe that he was told that....
My husband had a friend that firmly believed that if you treat a woman nice and respectful all the time then she'll expect it all the time. He felt he had to "crap" on her once in awhile just to keep her on her toes.
And he wonders why at age 53 he's never been married and never able to hang onto some really great women.
She should expect it all the time. He should be respectful all the time. That's not to say one doesn't lose their cool, or say something they might regret later on, but everyone should be treated with respect unless they have done something to lose it. In this case, having breasts seems to be all that is required.
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Originally Posted by rubber_factory
Is it possible to treat someone "well" every moment of your life? The idea seems a little ridiculous to me.
And what if the other person becomes petulant and demanding? Do you stay the course, continue this compliance? Surely at some point a person must put their foot down. Obviously that's not to say it should be done arbitrarily.
Is it possible? Probably not. When someone is not worthy of respect, they shouldn't get any. That's not what we're discussing.
It is an arbitrary decision on the part of this man; give her love and then be mean to her, intentionally, willfully, just to keep up with some silly idea that this is they way to keep a woman. Train her like a dog.
the Kid will find he will get much more action being a Bad Boy than a nice Guy. --With time he will find it is more important to just be ones true self, and let the cards fall where they may. People try to hard to manipulate situations, rather than just enjoyin the ride. --Youth is the time for experimentation, to find and develop who we become.
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