Girldfriends sexual history is tearing us apart ADVICE please! (men, young, divorces)

[missymomof3]

Originally Posted by Rakin

Tell her

1. Your are a prude, you have to many hangups toward sex and you need to take a break.

2. Tell her you think you might be gay.

or

3. Be a man and tell her you think it would be best not to see each other. Be a man & do it in person.

I agree

[jjbigsby2]

Kele that is what it all boils down to, but i just dont want her walking out the door thinking she isnt good enough for anyone else. I wish more than anything i could have gotten over this, but its a personal thing i guess. I just dont ever want a wife who has been with that many people with no emotional atatchment to them. Thats what serious dating is all about right? Finding that special someone?

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by jjbigsby2

Rakin - she is a 1st class lady(beautiful, smart, just all around awesome except for her history which i cannot get over. Beleive me i feel so immature about it but at the end of the day i cant get over it. I hope she does find the man of her dreams one day and makes him the happiest man on earth. She deserves it.)

Kele - I know girls want to have fun, i just dont want one who has had 3 times the fun as everyone else with guys she is not emptionally attatched too. I clearly stated that im not holding a double standard here. If she was with 13 partners that were all "legitimate" as in relationships, i would be more understanding.


HELP WITH THE BREAK UP PLEASE?????

You just have to be honest, and gentle, with her.

Explain that while you think she's a great lady, your own personal standards just won't allow you to relax about her past and therefore you have to break up.

She'll be hurt, but there is no way to avoid that I'm afraid.

But, and hear this, YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO YOUR FEELINGS. Feelings are never right or wrong, they just are.

To thine ownself be true

[Rakin]

Originally Posted by jjbigsby2

Kele that is what it all boils down to, but i just dont want her walking out the door thinking she isnt good enough for anyone else. I wish more than anything i could have gotten over this, but its a personal thing i guess. I just dont ever want a wife who has been with that many people with no emotional atatchment to them. Thats what serious dating is all about right? Finding that special someone?

When you break up with someone do it at her place. That way you can walk out the door and she doesn't have to make the long trip back home.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by lovesMountains

But, and hear this, YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO YOUR FEELINGS. Feelings are never right or wrong, they just are.

Well, you're right about this. That's why he should save her and himself from misery.

[the minx]

Originally Posted by Rakin

When you break up with someone do it at her place. That way you can walk out the door and she doesn't have to make the long trip back home.

Wow, you must be experienced. I've never thought of that.

[Huckleberry3911948]

is it possible the other women in the class are lying?

[Kele]

Originally Posted by jjbigsby2

Kele that is what it all boils down to, but i just dont want her walking out the door thinking she isnt good enough for anyone else. I wish more than anything i could have gotten over this, but its a personal thing i guess. I just dont ever want a wife who has been with that many people with no emotional atatchment to them. Thats what serious dating is all about right? Finding that special someone?

Why do you care what she feels?

You, although you won't come out and say it, think she's a wh*re.

Sex doesn't always have to be emotional, little boy. Sometimes it's just fun. I'd rather be with someone who had already sowed their wild oats, knew what was out there, and still wanted to be with only me, than to hook up with someone who's inexperience in the sexual realm fanned later in life curiosity.

[jjbigsby2]

Yeah i know im going with option 3. I didnt say being in love with all them would fix the problem. It might have made it more bearable.

Missingatlanta im 22 as well yes. I have been sexually active for 5 years now. My past has included all serious relations ships. 3 more than one year. The other more than 4 months : ) Im not afraid of commitment or anything either.

20yrsinbranson - 14 may have been a dorp in the bucket, but today on my college campus with that many partners you greatly increase your chance of STI's !!!

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by spinx

Wow, you must be experienced. I've never thought of that.

He-he, I believe I've read such advice in a magazine. Rakin, admit to reading Cosmo or something quickly! Makes sense. People get into accidents when upset, too.