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Being single is NOT easy. Please provide some encouraging words for struggling single adults. Write something positive, tell your success story and what it took to get there, or state what keeps you motivated. Feel free to address singles who may:
1. live in a small town with few prospective dates
If relocating isn't an option, consider branching out to communities around you. Get involved in something. Take a look at UrbanBlasphemy's blog for some ideas: //www.city-data.com/blogs/blog1...eet-women.html There are also many threads on here that offer suggestions. 2. feel acute (e.g., breakup, divorce) or chronic loneliness
Getting involved in *something* can often alleviate the loneliness factor. You should also try to embrace your alone time...learn to love it! 3. have a history of attracting people with character flaws (e.g., lying, unfaithfulness, alcohol and drug abuse)
No offense, but look to yourself first to see if there is something that might be attracting these types. If not, just keep telling yourself that you simply haven't met up with the right person yet. There's someone out there for everyone! 4. sexually frustrated
There are ways to take care of that issue....but this forum is PG-13 so I'll just let this one go unanswered...... 5. other
I guess in general, don't beat yourself up. Dating isn't easy for most people. Try to find the positive as often as you can and some day when you least expect you will find the person you have been looking for - it happens all the time!
Sublimate. Take all that raw passion you've stored up for that ever-elusive "special someone" and use it to learn, to create, to pursue the things you are truly passionate about. You will find that even in the darkest moment, this will be the thing that gives you the most meaning.
One of the best ways to see the benefits of being single is to get into (and out of!) a bad LT relationship. I'm only half joking. It helps you appreciate the value of having nobody but yourself to set the agenda for what you are going to do.
Other thoughts to make the most of it:
- Get out and make platonic friends. this is important and people who aren't serial daters appreciate this and make time for like minded singles. Having emotionally close same sex friends is a very good thing.
- Take up an endurance sport. Find out what running or triathlon events are coming up in a few months and come up with a training plan to do it. If you are focused on a marathon 4 months away then you don't have the time or energy to stare at the walls and wonder what you are doing. Plus it helps sublimate that sexual frustration you mention.
Being single is what you make of it, so make the most of it!
this is a typical case of grass is greener on the other side...
many married people are miserable and wish they were single any day of the year, many singles are frustrated and lonely and wish they were involved.
I think while it's amazing to be involved with the right person, more often than not there is a lot of BS associated with relationships because most people settle with the wrong person for fear of being lonely only to find themselves miserable again.
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