Be yourself.... (dating, girlfriends, women, love)

[funymann]

So many times I hear people talking about how they were trying to impress a certain person on a date. Is it really you though?

Seriously.

Be yourself.

If you don't like certain things then don't do them to impress someone.

I was showing someone a picture one time and the response was..."You're not trying very hard to impress me."

My response was...Why?

Why would I go out of my way to be a certain person that I would not normally be. Here is me out on the table.

Women? Don't look at a guy as if you are going to change them. They are who they are. Love the little things they do. The little things that he isn't even aware he does.

If you cannot stand something he is doing then you need to move on.

Men love women who are themselves on a date. Just do what you would do normally. Be funny like you would with your girlfriends. If you are loud and outgoing then be that way on the date. It's something I think people need to do more of right up front.

Stop beating around the bush and wasting 3 months of dating only to have the true self suddenly surface.

There was a movie that made this. It was where the guy said to the woman..."Let's get everything out on the table right now." She thought he was creepy but he was right. Be honest. Get everything out first and if for some reason they cannot handle it then there is nothing lost. Just move on from that first date and part ways.

Your thoughts on these comments?

[ChessieMom]

This is a recent thread....


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[STT Resident]

With all due respect, my thoughts are why do you feel the need to create a thread of such generality when the left brain/right brain male/female syndrome is endlessly discussed on this forum?

No doubt the movie you alluded to was a comedy?

Dating is what it is. Some pretend to be what they're not because of insecurity and a desire to appear to be what what they think their new date needs or wants. Coming out upfront on a first date and demanding an immediate hands-down analysis is dumb and three months into a relationship isn't any kind of a guideline timeframe.

The first few months of any relationship is a searching process, an investigation as it were. It's all an evolving process and once the initial wooing process is over and that first flush starts to segue into reality, then it often comes to the make or break quantum leap. For some it's way shorter than your 3 months, for some it comes much later. People play games and that's a simple fact of life whether they be males or females.

Cheers!