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If anything, I think some people hesitate to talk about their good relationships for fear of looking like they're gloating. I've posted a couple of threads for people to say nice things about their spouses, and I've always gotten lots of grateful reps and DMs. Sometimes it seems like every thread is about cheating and divorce and breaking up and bitchy little comments about boyfriends and girlfriends. Oh, with a couple threads about armpit hair and "Ewww, fat people!" thrown in for good measure.
My relationship is not perfect, but I am happy. If you don't like it, you can suck it.
I used to think that was true until I met the man who showed me what was possible in a relationship. I thought everyone else was relationshipmiserable and just hid it well or was in denial!
Is it me or do some "posters" exagerrate their relationships, they claim to have the best husbands, best wives, best sex lifes, do it everyday. perfect lifes etc etc, sometimes, coming in here make some of us w problems feel like "damm my relationship is messed up" i mean compared to the people here!
You are using "exaggeration" in the pejorative sense. I prefer to think of posters unintentionally misrepresenting reality. People describing their relationships are by definition emotionally involved, and are therefore subjective. I believe the cliche is "take it with a grain of salt", or to update that, they are putting a "spin" on their story to bend reality to their perception.
So I agree with you, but I expect some "exaggeration", and I don't see it as malicious.
Jgive us tips on a succesful relationship, so we can join your circle!
I don't have as much advice about dating as other people do. I only had a few boyfriends before I got married at 22. I was also pregnant at the time, and we're pretty sure that happened on our first date. There ... feel better? Are you completely shocked?
14 years and three children later, we're doing fine. If we can do it, so can you.
If anything, I think some people hesitate to talk about their good relationships for fear of looking like they're gloating. I've posted a couple of threads for people to say nice things about their spouses, and I've always gotten lots of grateful reps and DMs. Sometimes it seems like every thread is about cheating and divorce and breaking up and bitchy little comments about boyfriends and girlfriends. Oh, with a couple threads about armpit hair and "Ewww, fat people!" thrown in for good measure.
My relationship is not perfect, but I am happy. If you don't like it, you can suck it.
Hi JustJulia,
You never disappoint. I agree. I am waiting for my wife to get over her 3rd trimester and postpartum recovery so I can man handle her some more. So no, its not perfect.
Not knocking you justjulia more power 2 u serioulsy, i want what you have! Im just saying, its hard to beleive, how people here are so perfect, perfect sex lives, sleep naked, have no financial problems, perfect kids etc etc, do u understand where im coming from>
Not knocking you justjulia more power 2 u serioulsy, i want what you have! Im just saying, its hard to beleive, how people here are so perfect, perfect sex lives, sleep naked, have no financial problems, perfect kids etc etc, do u understand where im coming from>
I understand. It's kind of like when you get those newsletters at the end of the year from cousins and other relatives ... do you get those? They are always full of good news, how Jimmy got all As, and Johnny made varsity basketball, and Jenny won the spelling bee, and you're thinking, "Are these the same three kids I know? Because those kids are brats!"
Would you really want to get a newsletter with all the bad news? Jimmy got all As after his parents spent $800 on a tutor, and Johnny was suspended for fighting, and Jenny just lost her iPod and her mother is furious! Not so cheerful.
Just remember that you are hearing a tiny, tiny piece of someone's story. You can drive through a beautiful neighborhood and envy the big houses and fancy cars, but you don't know who is drowning in debt or miserable with other problems. You only see what's on the surface. Everybody has problems, just different kinds.
If anything, I think some people hesitate to talk about their good relationships for fear of looking like they're gloating. I've posted a couple of threads for people to say nice things about their spouses, and I've always gotten lots of grateful reps and DMs. Sometimes it seems like every thread is about cheating and divorce and breaking up and bitchy little comments about boyfriends and girlfriends. Oh, with a couple threads about armpit hair and "Ewww, fat people!" thrown in for good measure.
My relationship is not perfect, but I am happy.
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Originally Posted by LEVOW
Not knocking you justjulia more power 2 u serioulsy, i want what you have! Im just saying, its hard to beleive, how people here are so perfect, perfect sex lives, sleep naked, have no financial problems, perfect kids etc etc, do u understand where im coming from>
Where are these people? I see people in good relationships here, but none that don't have any problems. I have a great relationship, but we don't have money. My dh has to sleep on the floor because of his back. I only get to have sex (mostly) in the summer and winter break.
Perhaps you are just taking the best from each and morphing it into one entity. OTOH, since becoming a member on CD, it certainly helps me recognize how fortunate I am. My dh is kind and compassionate. That tends to be a rarity around some parts of this forum.
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