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I need time to cool off however, dh wants to get things resolved immediately. It's not that easy with me, I really have to let go of the emotions or it can become worse. I can let the "sailor" in me come out if I am pushed too far then it's going off a cliff from there.
i need time to cool off however, dh wants to get things resolved immediately. It's not that easy with me, i really have to let go of the emotions or it can become worse. I can let the "sailor" in me come out if i am pushed too far then it's going off a cliff from there. :d
[this it how my wife is i hate that!!!!]
it bothers me when shes upset, when she upsets me, i get over it,because i hate fighting, she needs time to cool off, so i give it to her, but during all this time, it kills me inside to know shes mad lol
Good news- I am quick to forgive and move on *IF* my husband is sincere in his apology.
Bad news- he is too immature to *own* his responsibility in the issue.
I have heard- "I'm sorry you're upset." When a sincere apology would have been "I'm so sorry for my insensitive, irrational, neglectful, careless,,,,,words, behavior,,,,that caused you pain."
When I have pointed out his failure/refusal to accept his responsibilty in the problem, he gets really defensive. "OK-OK I'll take the blame in this." Taking the blame for something, and acknowledging you are responsible for the crappy behavior, is not the same thing.
I could cover the walls of our bedroom with his lame apology cards.
Good news- I am quick to forgive and move on *IF* my husband is sincere in his apology.
Bad news- he is too immature to *own* his responsibility in the issue.
I have heard- "I'm sorry you're upset." When a sincere apology would have been "I'm so sorry for my insensitive, irrational, neglectful, careless,,,,,words, behavior,,,,that caused you pain."
When I have pointed out his failure/refusal to accept his responsibilty in the problem, he gets really defensive. "OK-OK I'll take the blame in this." Taking the blame for something, and acknowledging you are responsible for the crappy behavior, is not the same thing.
I could cover the walls of our bedroom with his lame apology cards.
it bothers me when shes upset, when she upsets me, i get over it,because i hate fighting, she needs time to cool off, so i give it to her, but during all this time, it kills me inside to know shes mad lol
My husband hates it too! Sometimes I just have to leave and come back later because he will just not stop.
Be glad she is like that, it means she still cares but has her own way of dealing with things.
It's when I stop giving a d*mn and just say "oh well" he needs to worry because I am over it.
Ladys, when your upset with your s/o, do you prefer for him to be calling you over and over telling you sorry, sending you flowers or do you prefer for him to tell you hes sorry once and give you time to cool off"?
The first option should NEVER be an option.
I believe in apologizing if you did in fact do something wrong and you realize it and are truly sorry. But apologizing just to keep someone or buying them gifts to try and earn their love is just something no one should ever do.
Not saying you're in this boat right now, but if she's pissed off at you and you've already said you're sorry, let her go. Do not contact her again until she contacts you. If she never contacts you again, you will NEVER contact her again either. It means she didn't care for you that much in the first place. (Unless you did something unforgivable like abuse or cheating).
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Once people have been together long enough and know each other I find it hard to imagine having that big of a misunderstanding or unknown difference. Just my opinion
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Sometimes I just have to leave and come back later because he will just not stop. 
