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Yeah, really... what in the world can possibly happen every hour at work?!
Having background knowledge of her, I have to say she's a case of her own! Yet, she seems to be keeping your (I'd imagine) intelligent and good-looking brother on a hook! Why do you think that is? I told ya THEY look like siblings, didn't I?
It is kind of funny when they get the wrong cell number though. All of ours are only one digit apart. I have received dirty texts from some of their spouses before. They tell me (thinking I'm them) what they want to do to me when I get home. LOL.......... You should hear them when they found out they got the wrong number. I love it!
It is kind of funny when they get the wrong cell number though. All of ours are only one digit apart. I have received dirty texts from some of their spouses before. They tell me (thinking I'm them) what they want to do to me when I get home. LOL.......... You should hear them when they found out they got the wrong number. I love it!
It does sound like fun! Hey, maybe the needy spouses ARE the dream spouses after all... No man would complain of such advances!
My definition of needy is one who must be with their SO constantly, rarely participating in separate activities, basically emotional dependency.
I don't consider being spoiled a condition of being needy but rather a form of selfishness.
I'll go with this definition
I dated a guy once who wanted to come over and "hang out" every single freakin' night Um, sometimes I'd like you to stay the heck away from me so I can do laundry, catch up on e-mails, wash my hair, just be alone. Someone who needs to see me every day so he can feel secure in the relationship - that's needy! I need time to myself as well. If I'm dating someone, even if I'm crazy about him, I don't need to see him more than two or three times a week.
Any guy who calls me at work just to chat would do that one time and one time only. I do not like personal calls when I'm working. Unless somebody died, it can wait until after 5.
Sounds about right. I remember a thread here recently asking about what to text constantly when you have nothing really to say!
Yep. That thread definitely gets my "needy" vote.
As far as men, that was my next-to-last boyfriend. Texted about 15 times a day, if I didn't text right back he'd freak out and call me wondering what was wrong. Got upset if I didn't stop at his house after work before going home...annoyed if I chose to work out rather than see him on what were normally my workout nights. It made for a very stressful relationship after a period of time...and the relationship imploded. And that was best.
I do think there are different types of neediness.
What I think of as 'needy' is someone so insecure that he/she relies too much on the mate for anything, whether it's emotional or just plain "living". I've known both men and women who can't go out and do anything by themselves, HAVE to depend on their mates for all their enjoyment. And quite often these types are very jealous, possessive.
But I did have a friend that I always considered needy in an odd way. She was ultra-gorgeous, intelligent, friendly, nice, and seemed to "have it all". However, in time I began to notice how much she used people and appeared to rely on them for many things (in this case, NOT emotionally, but for access to THINGS and help when she needed it). She was used to people, particularly guys, being putty in her hands. When she got married her husband had a tall order to fill.
If I'm dating someone, even if I'm crazy about him, I don't need to see him more than two or three times a week.
I don't believe I can it do more than that, either, and only if he lives pretty close. That's why I think this dating deal is very inconvenient.
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As far as men, that was my next-to-last boyfriend. Texted about 15 times a day, if I didn't text right back he'd freak out and call me wondering what was wrong. Got upset if I didn't stop at his house after work before going home...annoyed if I chose to work out rather than see him on what were normally my workout nights. It made for a very stressful relationship after a period of time...and the relationship imploded. And that was best.
Wow, so there are such men as well after all.
Now that I think about it, I wonder if we all get warped as we get older or the lifestyle is just not conducive to spending much time together. I remember my college BF and I did like to spend every available minute together... And with other people, too. I also remember not knowing what to do with my left hand for quite a few months after breaking up. Maybe we were needy... at least at the time... I can't quite imagine this right now.
Now that I think about it, I wonder if we all get warped as we get older or the lifestyle is just not conducive to spending much time together. I remember my college BF and I did like to spend every available minute together... And with other people, too. I also remember not knowing what to do with my left hand for quite a few months after breaking up. Maybe we were needy... at least at the time... I can't quite imagine this right now.
My ex-fiance and I spent every waking minute together after I moved to AZ. We did darn near everything together including grocery shopping, laundry, cooking. Before that, when we lived 2 hours apart, we would talk on the phone for 1-2 hours every night, and spend the entire weekend (Friday night to Sunday night) together.
The next guy I dated was the opposite and it took a long time for me to adjust to someone who didn't need to talk to me every day, and didn't want to spend the entire weekend with me.
Once I got used to the new boyfriend, I decided I preferred his way, and now can't imagine going back. Unfortunately, I think I was still a bit "needy" early in the relationship which may have contributed to its ending He lives near me once again, and I'm kind of hoping to rekindle something, but since neither of us is needy and like our alone time, we may never get together
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Yet, she seems to be keeping your (I'd imagine) intelligent and good-looking brother on a hook! Why do you think that is? I told ya THEY look like siblings, didn't I?
I love it!
It made for a very stressful relationship after a period of time...and the relationship imploded. And that was best.
