Do you feel left out this holiday season? (girlfriend, married, girl)
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Do you feel left out this holiday season--while all your co-workers and family are out at holiday parties every weekend, you're sitting home alone because you didn't get any invitations? Or you open your mailbox and don't get a single holiday card the entire holiday season, even though you send out plenty every year but no one reciprocates? Do you invite people out to do fun things but they're so crazy busy with holiday gatherings they don't have time for you? Do you find the holidays depressing because it makes you feel even more isolated and disconnected from others than you usually do?
I feel exactly like this. Anyone else feel the same?
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Holidays have a tendency to make us reflect and concern ourselves with things that otherwise wouldn't occupy our time. I would try not to get to caught up in the hype of the time and enjoy life as it is without any expectation from anyone. Easier said than done I know but that's an approach I use and it lessons the anxiety I feel anyway. Good luck!
During some of the Christmas Holidays that I was completely single (no girlfriend at all), I didn't get depressed, but I sure wasn't exactly super happy either. I never decorated where I lived or went to church for Holiday Services. I did go to a company Christmas Party once, that was a total blast, but I did take a girl that I knew. That even made it more fun!
Now that I'm married, the Holidays are so, so much better for me! Decorations, church and some very nice gifts. Totally cool!
Holidays have a tendency to make us reflect and concern ourselves with things that otherwise wouldn't occupy our time. I would try not to get to caught up in the hype of the time and enjoy life as it is without any expectation from anyone. Easier said than done I know but that's an approach I use and it lessons the anxiety I feel anyway. Good luck!
Do you feel left out this holiday season--while all your co-workers and family are out at holiday parties every weekend, you're sitting home alone because you didn't get any invitations? Or you open your mailbox and don't get a single holiday card the entire holiday season, even though you send out plenty every year but no one reciprocates? Do you invite people out to do fun things but they're so crazy busy with holiday gatherings they don't have time for you? Do you find the holidays depressing because it makes you feel even more isolated and disconnected from others than you usually do?
I feel exactly like this. Anyone else feel the same?
I want to cry after reading this! When I hear of people being alone it makes me terribly sad....there are billions of people on this planet and there is no excuse for someone to be alone(if they don't want to be, of course!)...we are becoming less and less connected in a more technologically connected world...I would have you to my house if you lived close!
I want to cry after reading this! When I hear of people being alone it makes me terribly sad....there are billions of people on this planet and there is no excuse for someone to be alone(if they don't want to be, of course!)...we are becoming less and less connected in a more technologically connected world...I would have you to my house if you lived close!
Thanks, I appreciate it! I just wish I felt less invisible to other people in general, and more connected. It's just so hard to make new friends as an adult and feel connected when you're a relative newcomer to an area. The holidays, with everyone going to holiday parties, and everyone being "crazy busy" all the time, just makes the isolation more noticeable. Everyone seems to describe the holidays as "crazy." I guess they are when you have lots of friends to visit and who are visiting you, holiday parties to attend, presents to buy and send out, etc. but not when none of these things applies.
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