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I watched a True Life episode today that left me with the feeling that one person was using the other for emotional and maybe financial support and then discarded that sap without remorse. Without naming names, I've heard from acquaintances about it being done out in the real world, women using men.
Have you ever been in a relationship where someone was using the other person for sex, resources, emotional support, to avoid being alone, or something and did not really care about that person?
I haven't done it, but I was used in my last relationship. I basically supported him while he went through college and the minute he graduated and found someone hotter than me he cheated on me then left. No remorse whatsoever.
I haven't used anyone as far as I know, but it sucks being the one who was used.
I watched a True Life episode today that left me with the feeling that one person was using the other for emotional and maybe financial support and then discarded that sap without remorse. Without naming names, I've heard from acquaintances about it being done out in the real world, women using men.
Have you ever been in a relationship where someone was using the other person for sex, resources, emotional support, to avoid being alone, or something and did not really care about that person?
I haven't done it, but I was used in my last relationship. I basically supported him while he went through college and the minute he graduated and found someone hotter than me he cheated on me then left. No remorse whatsoever.
I haven't used anyone as far as I know, but it sucks being the one who was used.
That sounds like the worst story that was relayed to me, except it was a woman going through law school and I don't know if a third party was involved. I already knew to avoid female lawyers
Some people are born with the manipulative gene and simply get their kicks from manipulating others (eg getting someone to buy them stuff or do things for them). If you have the gene you will answer yes. Overwhelming majority of successful sales people are manipulators.
Anyway, I like the poll and think it and the thread deserve more attention. I don't have any more stories of my own to tell, because they're too fragmented and speculative, but I'll say I believe blatant using is more common than in the past.
Have you ever been in a relationship where someone was using the other person for sex, resources, emotional support, to avoid being alone, or something and did not really care about that person?
i'm confused about this dichotomy between 'using someone' and 'caring about them'
i tend to look at relationships as two people who mutually use one another, and also care about one another.
get real, there are always mutual benefits in a relationship. "using" someone is high school talk. if there is no emotional connections, caring, love involved, it will eventually surface. and sometimes, it's just a mutual understood arrangement, e.g., young attractive women hooking up with men of means
I don't think the majority of people will admit being guilty of the subject of this thread.
Also, IME, people that do display such behavior usually feel that the other person 'deserved it'.
In most of eveyone's actions, people feel justified in whatever path they travel.
That's why this thread won't get much attention. Very few people will admit to 'the evil that men do' from a personnal perspective. And not only that, but many evils that people do are prompty followed up with their story as to why they are justified to behave as such. Regardless if their excuse to use someone is true or not, many people out there will do all kinds of things that are rude, offensive, or manilulative/using.
Just as in this forum, there are two sides to every story. Most of the time, it is difficult to hear both sides of a story, but I'm sure if people heard/knew the truth to many stories, the perception of many a 'good' people would change.
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