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My God you people are brutal...marriage vows generally say "in sickness and in health" but so few people respect those vows. This girl has respected them and she needed some anonymous encouragement...do any of you even know what it's like to take care of a sick person that you love? My mother took care of my father for 21 years due to his illness, until he finally died. She loved him right up until the very end -- how many people know without a doubt their spouse would stay with them through all that...MsRiss just needed to reach out to someone for encouragement ...
MsRiss, is it only sex you're not getting? What about hugs, kisses and other forms of affection. Does your husband let you know he loves you? I'm sorry that you're having to deal with such hardships in your marriage.
I shouldn't post this, but I've had 2 glasses of wine and am a lightweight and so I'm kind of drunk. I just got turned down by my husband for the 8th time in a row. But who's counting? I know it's not me but it still hurts. I'm off tomorrow so maybe I'll have a third and really embarass myself on here....
That sucks girl. I don't even know what to suggest as it seems that he is aware of how you feel.
Don't worry about embarrassing yourself here, we have your back.
She might also not come back because she didn't want real advice and just wanted us to throw her a pity party. When she didn't get that, she left. And seriously, if she's *so* embarrassed because of a THREAD ON THE INTERNET that SHE STARTED then she needs to grow up and toughen up.
If I were her and my situation were dire and I really wanted advice, I would stay and kept asking questions until I got it. I wouldn't run away because someone made a few jokes.
If she's tough enough to stay with her husband through this, surely she can be tough enough to stay through the THREAD. Sheesh.
Where did she say that she come here for advice? As far as I know, she came here for support and let it out.
Being judged by random clueless strangers is hard. I don't blame her for leaving. Sheesh.
I don't feel she embarrased herself at all. 1) Its an anoynomous board 2) She spoke her mind dealing with a problamatic reality in her life, nothing wrong with that!
Phew! I'm sometimes amazed at the really bad advice which some people throw out on CD forums in general, and am sometimes greatly dispirited by thinly veiled racial attacks and bigotry. Some of the posters on this thread have really taken the cake and exhibited such gross callousness in their responses while their feeble attempts at gutter humor have just driven the OP away.
There are NO excuses for not having read the thread before responding and my heart aches for the OP who is going through a horrible time, came onto this forum hoping to find some sort of solace and instead has been ridiculed by so many in such a horrible fashion. Shame on you!
I sincerely hope that none of you idiots ever has to go through what this young lady is going through and also hope that one of your New Year's resolutions will be to not only THINK before you write but also take the time to READ before leaping in. Good will to all men not.
I'm 26 and my husband is 27. We've been together almost 7 years. My husband has:
a kidney transplant and immunosuppresent drugs
impotency& no sex drive-related to the drugs he has to take
depression-he is on medication but his illnesses get him down
fibromyalgia
chronic fatigue syndrome
sleep apnea
chronic pain
he had a minor stroke at 24
this among other more minor issues. He is on a lot of steriods and takes 24 pills a day. I adore my husband, but was just looking for some support from some people who are going through something similar. It's hard because when he isn't at work he is is esting due to his severe pain and fatigue. Sometimes he is in too much pain and so tired it's hard for him to lift his arms or go check the mail. Fortunately, he is able to muster his will to work as a nurse and will soon start school to become a nurse anethesist. He is very excited about this. Meanwhile I am healthy 26 year old. I am a hiker, marathon runner, etc. It's hard sometimes. I spent my early twenties cleaning his bed pans and caring for him when he was really sick. I've never had sex (ok once) without viagra/cialis and it only "works" about 1/4 of the time due to his diminished sex drive. My husband doesnt even look like the same person when I met him and people from high school don't recognize him. He has had a rough road and his health just isn't going to get better. I just wondered how other people cope with chronic illness. We both get counseling which is great, just wondered if other people had some tips and experiences. Sometimes it just helps to know there are others
You may have better luck and empathy in the health and wellness forum with this specific issue.
Phew! I'm sometimes amazed at the really bad advice which some people throw out on CD forums in general, and am sometimes greatly dispirited by thinly veiled racial attacks and bigotry. Some of the posters on this thread have really taken the cake and exhibited such gross callousness in their responses while their feeble attempts at gutter humor have just driven the OP away.
There are NO excuses for not having read the thread before responding and my heart aches for the OP who is going through a horrible time, came onto this forum hoping to find some sort of solace and instead has been ridiculed by so many in such a horrible fashion. Shame on you!
I sincerely hope that none of you idiots ever has to go through what this young lady is going through and also hope that one of your New Year's resolutions will be to not only THINK before you write but also take the time to READ before leaping in. Good will to all men not.
Well said. "Idiots" says it best.
The OP was also drinking and that may have contributed to her shaky behaviour last night. And she came here to vent, and the clowns mocked and jeered at her all the way through
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I know it's not me but it still hurts. I'm off tomorrow so maybe I'll have a third and really embarass myself on here....
I don't even know what to suggest as it seems that he is aware of how you feel.
