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Thank you to the people who chimed in about my initial post on this thread. I reread my wordsmulitple times and could not for the life of me understand why someone would think it was a personal dig.
humans are just very complex beings. some people find that other person they have a great connection with early on, some of us just end up taking longer. if you keep looking youll eventually find the right one. it all math/statisitcs/sciene or whatever.
im still single cuz im always drawn to crazy chicks. i do it over and over! yeah, sometimes ill get into a relationship with one, but it always explodes! lol....dont think too much of people in these types of relationships
I am in a similar boat. I have had relationships and I would like to think of myself as a wonderful person even if I do not always live up to it.
Looking at myself impartially, I have to say specifically in my case it is due to a combination of worrying about relationship outcomes and lack of effort. To be honest while it might be nice to have a girlfriend and there are times I would really like to have someone special most of the time I do not mind being single and even question if it is worth the investment I would need to make in a relationship at this time. On top of that, I have a rather transient lifestyle which is may cause problems and while I have been fortunate enough not to have seriously dated a dysfunctional person I know many people who have and that possibility worries me. Now if an attractive woman approached me and asked me on a date that would be another story, but I doubt that would happen.
Merry Christmas and best of luck to you on whichever path you choose to pursue.
I am in a similar boat. I have had relationships and I would like to think of myself as a wonderful person even if I do not always live up to it.
Looking at myself impartially, I have to say specifically in my case it is due to a combination of worrying about relationship outcomes and lack of effort. To be honest while it might be nice to have a girlfriend and there are times I would really like to have someone special most of the time I do not mind being single and even question if it is worth the investment I would need to make in a relationship at this time. On top of that, I have a rather transient lifestyle which is may cause problems and while I have been fortunate enough not to have seriously dated a dysfunctional person I know many people who have and that possibility worries me. Now if an attractive woman approached me and asked me on a date that would be another story, but I doubt that would happen.
Merry Christmas and best of luck to you on whichever path you choose to pursue.
Perhaps you should go ahead and approach that attractive woman and ask her out on a date.
I have two single women friends...both are BEAUTIFUL, funny and socially approachable. Both have better than decent jobs. Both are good and thoughtful friends.
But they are less than easy going. I think they make men feel like they have to "walk on eggshells".
I have another good friend who is about 30 pounds overweight and not the most polished person in the world...but she rarely lacks for male company.
I am not saying she doesn't ever get crabby, but she is just waaay more accepting of men. I think they feel comfortable around her.
Not directed at the OP, just contributing to the thread.
Also don't forget the cold hard facts of nature.
There are simply not enough hetero, non-incarcerated, healthy and intelligent men to go around.
Perhaps you should go ahead and approach that attractive woman and ask her out on a date.
BTW, Chapel Hill? Small world haha.
Thanks for the advice, I think you are correct that that is my central problem.
But then there is part two of the problem...inertia. It is a weird predicament when someone put forth the needed time and effort to gain admission to a tier one law school, but is too unmotivated and uncertain to date. Again I dated in college, but stopped messing with it around my senior year...I will have to ponder this.
Perhaps, but then there is part two of the problem...inertia. It is a weird predicament when someone put for the needed time and effort to gain admission to a tier one law school, but is too unmotivated and uncertain to date. Again I dated in college, but stopped messing with it around my senior year...I will have to ponder this.
Yup Chapel Hill. Are you from around here?
Law school - you're currently residing in one of my possible futures lol. Tell me, is it as dank and solemn as some people have divulged to me? Seriously though, congrats.
I can see how one would be unmotivated and uncertain to date. A quick perusal at half of the threads in this forum is enough to make anyone run away into the embrace of a hermitic life. The dating world is kind of like a bunch of blind people running around and bumping into each other, then blaming the other person for bumping into them. Le sigh. Still, there is always light! Dating should be fun - and it is. Jump in the game, tiger! Ahh, was that a cheesy cheer lol? I'm in a peppy mood and it's bubbling over into my posts.
And let's just say that I attend a college in the Research Triangle.
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