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Why? So she expects this over the top baby treatment all the time? I think you should be yourself and these types of situations can be personal revelation settings for "yeh..this is not going to work out..bye" Why fake it and prolong it? If one can't even not fight about some stupid crap like this without making a big issue...how is one going to handle real problems.
I do agree. It's a childish and immature thing to throw a tantrum about. I wonder if a real problem occurred how she would handle it. This is a minor thing, and she's making a mountain out of a molehill.
Sir the reality is this. Yes she does feel her breaking down is 10X more important than that thing you were pre-occupied with (oh yeah WORK), and ANYONE other than her father, or you who was coming to her assist was automatically going to be described as "creepy". Why? To further illustrate the point she wants to make to you that she (in her mind) could have been killed and murdered instantly all because YOU had better things to do (like your job). In the future either take off if you can, or call her and make sure she feels you care. You obviously do care, but she calls it differently, so you now don't care by default. What was going on for you is irrelevant to her, and even though she knows your the type who is focused on what you are doing at the time the only right answer here is to drop whatever you are doing and run to her aid. Anything less and you'll get painted with the "He doesn't really care about me brush". BTW you do know you will eventually have to either help buy or buy her a new car because once a car breaks down it can NEVER be fixed again. Disclaimer: men act this way too!
What? She sounds like a baby. Call her? Her car broke down for heavens sake! Whatever...I am a female and I would not of bothered to even call you in the first place. She then calls her daddy who is also late? Sounds like princess needs a new footstool and you are up for the job.
That was my initial thought on it. But for the sake of us, I'm willing to make amends. I think that's bigger than standing by my principle to "[wo]man up". I told her this is why I apologized and admitted to being wrong when she said she told me she didn't feel she was wrong on any account in this incident. I agree, she needs to realize that just because her feelings were hurt over the incident does not indicate there wasn't anything she could have done to make a better outcome.
Sir the reality is this. Yes she does feel her breaking down is 10X more important than that thing you were pre-occupied with (oh yeah WORK), and ANYONE other than her father, or you who was coming to her assist was automatically going to be described as "creepy". Why? To further illustrate the point she wants to make to you that she (in her mind) could have been killed and murdered instantly all because YOU had better things to do (like your job). In the future either take off if you can, or call her and make sure she feels you care. You obviously do care, but she calls it differently, so you now don't care by default. What was going on for you is irrelevant to her, and even though she knows your the type who is focused on what you are doing at the time the only right answer here is to drop whatever you are doing and run to her aid. Anything less and you'll get painted with the "He doesn't really care about me brush". BTW you do know you will eventually have to either help buy or buy her a new car because once a car breaks down it can NEVER be fixed again. Disclaimer: men act this way too!
Yeah, agreed. I don't know about buying her car crap, though. Yeah if we do wed then the 'Yours/Mines/Ours' principle is in effect but until that point I have to choose to help her or not; it's not expected. And i
Sir the reality is this. Yes she does feel her breaking down is 10X more important than that thing you were pre-occupied with (oh yeah WORK), and ANYONE other than her father, or you who was coming to her assist was automatically going to be described as "creepy". Why? To further illustrate the point she wants to make to you that she (in her mind) could have been killed and murdered instantly all because YOU had better things to do (like your job). In the future either take off if you can, or call her and make sure she feels you care. You obviously do care, but she calls it differently, so you now don't care by default. What was going on for you is irrelevant to her, and even though she knows your the type who is focused on what you are doing at the time the only right answer here is to drop whatever you are doing and run to her aid. Anything less and you'll get painted with the "He doesn't really care about me brush". BTW you do know you will eventually have to either help buy or buy her a new car because once a car breaks down it can NEVER be fixed again. Disclaimer: men act this way too!
Yeah, agreed. I don't know about buying her car crap, though. Yeah if we do wed then the car comes under 'Yours/Mines/Ours' principle in effect but until that point I have to choose to help her or not; it's not expected. And if she feels that way she better open her mouth and say something.
Why? So she expects this over the top baby treatment all the time? I think you should be yourself and these types of situations can be personal revelation settings for "yeh..this is not going to work out..bye" Why fake it and prolong it? If one can't even not fight about some stupid crap like this without making a big issue...how is one going to handle real problems.
Pitt and STT
I don't think it's a dealbreaker, but it makes for a good opportunity to look at behaviors on a deeper level. I'm no doormat, but I know some softening issues to work on. This type of problem will be met somewhere in the middle for it to work with us.
I'm not faking it; I approached her and we discussed it. She feels she wasn't wrong on any account here, which makes me look even deeper and question whether this is some damsel in distress entitlement feeling she has when she is dealing with someone.
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