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The following post is completely honest and sincere:
My fathers Mother, who died before I was born, hated sex, but had two children. She was told by her mother that it was a sin to actually enjoy sex and it was a dirty ugly nasty act that was strictly for attempting to have children. She was told that it was her role as a woman to have children and be a mother, but she did not have to like sex, pregnancy, or motherhood.
My father was brought up with this tradition passed down through the generations. He did not want to have sex and felt ill at ease about it and only did it to attempt to get my mother pregnant. He did not really want to father children but was told by his mother that having children was a responsibility of all married couples.
Now it is the modern time but I still have a feeling that we need to have children and I have to have sex with my wife so that she will get pregnant so we can full fill out obligation to society and continue our family. But I really do not like having sex just like my father and grandfather.
Will this old fashioned thinking about sex, pregnancy and children go another generation?
I find it hard to pay attention to a thread from you or anyone else which starts off with such a sentence!
Yes, I know the story in my orginal post seems somewhat odd, but again it is true.
It would be great if there could be a honest discussion of how many people were in fact told that sex was just for child bearing purposes and it was a dirty nasty thing. If you look at history you will find that this was a common feeling back in the 1800s and I am sure other people have brought this idea on through the generations.
Yes, I know the story in my orginal post seems somewhat odd, but again it is true.
It would be great if there could be a honest discussion of how many people were in fact told that sex was just for child bearing purposes and it was a dirty nasty thing. If you look at history you will find that this was a common feeling back in the 1800s and I am sure other people have brought this idea on through the generations.
Well, I know at least one on this forum, so he'll have a field day with your thread!
So you've adopted a multitude of persona's to compensate, hmmm
that explains it.
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Originally Posted by Stranded and Lonely
The following post is completely honest and sincere:
My fathers Mother, who died before I was born, hated sex, but had two children. She was told by her mother that it was a sin to actually enjoy sex and it was a dirty ugly nasty act that was strictly for attempting to have children. She was told that it was her role as a woman to have children and be a mother, but she did not have to like sex, pregnancy, or motherhood.
My father was brought up with this tradition passed down through the generations. He did not want to have sex and felt ill at ease about it and only did it to attempt to get my mother pregnant. He did not really want to father children but was told by his mother that having children was a responsibility of all married couples.
Now it is the modern time but I still have a feeling that we need to have children and I have to have sex with my wife so that she will get pregnant so we can full fill out obligation to society and continue our family. But I really do not like having sex just like my father and grandfather.
Will this old fashioned thinking about sex, pregnancy and children go another generation?
You know, there comes a point in one's life when they start thinking for themselves, they question what they've been taught. There are things my mom tried to instill in me growing up, but I just never bought into them. Example: You will have kids and you will have no choice in the matter. BS I told her. I only had to go along with it until I was grown up. Never did have them, an intentional decision on my part.
You're allowed to have sex without procreating. Your dad was/is simply WRONG.
Now start thinking for yourself and go get yourself some.
While this does seem like yet another attention-begging thread, I'm kinda bored over here, so whatever.
#1 This isn't the 1800's so you needed think that that.
#2 You have no obligation to society to have children. You should only have them if you absolutely want them.
#3 Dont teach your kids backwards views about sex being only for procreating and it will never pass on. Simple as that.
#4 If you don't want to have sex with your wife, there are other ways. If sex and pregnancy is that repulsive to you, you could also adopt.
Maybe that's how way back then they didn't have a child every 9 months.
There might have been very good reasons to teach that kind of thing. They didn't want to jump in the sack every chance they could and get it on just to have another mouth that would be hard to feed.
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