Asking about having kids at our first meeting...is this odd?

[Randomstudent]

I think part of it depends on people's perceptions of what they are doing when they date. Some people are out there to take it day by day and figure if something serious develops then something serious develops. If you think about that kind of question in this context it would be really awkward on a first date/contact. On the other hand some people date with the explicit goal of finding Mr./Mrs. Right and are really looking for something longer term at the outset. From that perspective such a question makes perfect sense.

[Twinkle Toes]

Originally Posted by mackinac81

Hey Relationship forum folks! I was wondering if anyone could help me with this.

A month ago, I signed up for a dating website, and last week a woman gave me a "communication" (ie, I'm interested). We haven't actually spoken yet, but we're doing the "guided communication" on the site. She's very attractive, shares my religious views, and has a lot of qualities I'm looking for in a potential mate.

But one thing struck me as odd: In the "First Five Questions" that we ask each other, she asked me about my parents' marriage and how many kids I might want to have someday. Those struck me as unusual questions to ask the first time you meet someone online. I kept communicating anyway.

Then, we shared our "Must have/can't stand" list with each other, and again a lot of them were centered around marriage and family which, again, I thought was unusual to bring up when you're basically introducing each other. (I have not met her in person yet) BTW, I do want to get married and have a family some day, but I wasn't expecting to discuss this when I first meet someone.

Is it just me, or is this unusual? Due to my career, I haven't had much relationship experience, so I'm not really sure. I'd feel uncomfortable bringing those issues up with a woman until later in a relationship.

Any input?

Mackinac

Apparently you've been communicating with the same broad my brother met on Plenty of Fish. I'm in the process of helping him to get out of this nutty situation because he doesn't have the balls to just flat out tell her he isn't interested. He doesn't want to "hurt her feelings", yet she's the one yapping about marriage and kids. In fact - she's already announced they are getting married!